Expert: Master Shadow - 7/27/2008

Question
QUESTION: Sir I have a Master but my question is he has another and I am wondering how do I please my master in this kind of situation?

ANSWER:  Just please Him as you would normally do. Show yourself as worthy of your collar. I take it that you have no problem with a poly relationship, judging from the question.

I would do my level best to get along with your sister, or brother, so to speak. Do the things you would normally do, plus, if you can find a few "extras" to go that extra mile, it would help, and I'm sure please Him greatly by showing initiative.

I hope this helps. If you have further questions, please feel free to contact me further.



         SINcerely in Leather,
         Master Shadow.

---------- FOLLOW-UP ----------

QUESTION: Master Shadow if I may ask another question?  My Master tells me he cannot be with me because he is with another. But with that said tells me he wants to continue. I'm confused as to what to do.

Answer
At this point, I would start asking questions as to His plans with you. If He is with another to the exclusion of you, then I would suspect it to be time for some serious discussions. This is in no way disrespectful, and any true Dom would expect it given the current situation you find yourself in.

As a Dominant, I would expect my slave to come to Me with her concerns, whether or not I found them unpleasant, or uncomfortable to deal with or not. I have a standing rule in my House. Honesty, in ALL things. This includes emotional, since her emotional health and well being are as much my responsibility as any other part of Domination.

Remember, just because you're a slave does not mean that He can just use you, or ride roughshod over you if He's seeing another, and using you as a "side piece" for sex, or whatever. Many so called Doms will blow up at a slave for having concerns, or asking if there's something going on that the slave doesn't know about, like the Dom considering another over you, but not saying anything until They collar the other, then dropping you without so much as a fare thee well.

I would say, "With all due respect, Master, is there something I need to know about this other? Am I loosing You to another, and if so, why? Is there something I can change, or do to make You reconsider? This is, as my slave would say, where the rubber meets the road, so to speak.

Obviously, you are concerned, or you wouldn't have written to me in the first place. I agree with your concerns. Nobody likes to be caught off guard, or taken by surprise with an uncollaring, they hurt! I do, however have to ask if you have brought your concerns to Him yet, and stated your fears? If not, how is He to know? This is where honesty comes in. This is not a time for blame, or accusations. That never solved anything. Serious discussion, however does.

Explain your concerns in a clam, respectful manner, and ask for some reassurance that He's not considering uncollaring you for another. Be prepared for either answer, yes, or no. Many are not honest with Their slaves, and wind up hurting them more by trying to not let them know until it's too late. Truth is, that's a cop out from an uncomfortable situation the Dom is too immature to handle. Remember, many Doms are still children at heart. I know I am, and would never want to loose that playfulness that caused my current slave to ask for My collar in the first place.

Above all, though, is the fact that the lifestyle is supposed to be fun, not a burden. If it is no longer fun, then Y/you're doing something wrong. Again, it would be time for a serious discussion as to where the fun went!

I hope this helps, and wish you the best in your Journey, wherever it may take you. Be well, play safe, and have fun!


         SINcerely in Leather,
         Master Shadow.