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Expert: Lady Aryana - 7/1/2008


Question
PLEASE HELP ME!!!
I HAVE BEEN A SLAVE FOR A YEAR NOW.I FIND THAT IM NOT LISTERNING TO MY MASTER OUTSIDE OF THE BEDROOM
CAN YOU PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

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kellie,
You need to stop and try to figure out just what has changed that you no longer listen outside the bedroom. Chances are either you changed some how, or your Master has changed in his way of controlling you.
First off, lets start back at the basic's.. Lets read and find out just what you are looking for. The books I suggest are.
Screw the roses, send me the throns

SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission

The Master's Manual: A Handbook of Erotic Dominance

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame and Gloria Brame

Training With Miss Abernathy: A Workbook for Erotic Slaves and Their Owners by Christina Abernathy

Flogging: The Basics and Beyond (SMTech Educational) by Joseph W. Bean

Mistress Allure's Guide to Forbidden Eroticism for Adventurous Couples by Lawrence Elliot, Mistress Allure, and Her Consort Dimitri

The Compleat Slave: Creating And Living An Erotic Dominant/submissive Lifestyle by Jack Rinella and Joseph W. Bean

There is a Master's book to this one, called The Compleat Master I would suggest reading both

Now lets stop and talk to your Master, and find out just what is happening between you two. You need to talk, and listen... This is the most important thing, as hard as it is, listening can teach you alot more then you will understand.

Something has changed in your relationship, if you stop and look back, and talk about it you will figure out just what it is or was, and then maybe you can get back just what you lost.

Talking always helps, no matter what anyone says. So talk, listen then talk somemore.

Good luck

Marie

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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Old Guard, Victorn Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Email groups for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. I was collared to my Master, then we married Sept 25 2003. I am no longer in a relationship with him, although as D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either DD or D/s, or simply learning more in order to help others.

Experience

I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment although I am in a DD based relationship which has a very strong sense of D/s although it is NON sexual. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me, and at the moment I have to male slaves who would like to submit. Simply haven't had the time or place to do that yet. I know many egroups who can offer support. I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 22 yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I belong to the local BDSM community in AL, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and Old Guard. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

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