AboutMrsMarie Expertise Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Old Guard, Victorn Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocals, and so forth. Email groups for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. I was collared to Master, Sept 25 2003, We were in a long distance relationship until March the following year. We were married Sept 23 2006.
Experience I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissives, I am a real time slave, I know many egroups who can offer support. I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 22 yrs in BDSM in one way or another
Organizations I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I belong to the local BDSM community in AL, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.
Publications Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.
Education/Credentials Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking, and Gorean lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victoran and Old Guard. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.
Expert: MrsMarie Date: 7/22/2008 Subject: How to overcome being nervous
Question Hello and thank you for offering your time and thoughts. I am a new sub and I have met a man that I think the world of. I feel we are a perfect match not only in BDSM but also in the vanilla since. This is a long distance relationship and I am ready to meet him in person. We met 3-4 months ago online and in the beginning I was rushing him. I just hate wasting my time. I am glad that he made me wait. I have learned a lot few things about myself in the waiting process. However, it was overwhelming at first. He told me to write him everyday. I was doing that but I did not know what to write to him about. I am a very private person and I was not sure as to what he wanted to hear about. I would ask him and he would not tell me. I have gotten over the not knowing what to write about thing. Now it is the phone. For some reason he makes me so nervous. I can talk to anyone anytime and never feel anxious at all. But, when I talk to him I turn into a 6 year old. . In my writings I have a lot to say now. I look forward to talking to him but when I do I become speechless. I think my nervousness is going to cause him to seek another sub. So, my question is, is it normal for a new sub to feel this way? And I have heard that to alleviate the sub frenzy you should play with a friend. I would really like to wait for him. But if I can not are doms understanding to their subs sexual needs?
Answer Cinder
Yes it is very common to feel nervous,, Many go through these feelings.. The more you talk to him the less you will get.. Even after a long term relationship I still got nervous at times. When you write him explain to him just what you said to me, this might help him understand more, and he will be able to help you in some ways, Although it comes down to you. Being honest will help you a great deal.
I do not suggest you play with friends in order to get past this feeling. Friend understand you and know you so the feels you have will be different, so you truly can not work out the feelings you are going through.. Although in order to try something new such as a flogger, cane or some other toy, this is a good idea. Chances are, your friends will know your limits just as well as you if you are close to them.
Doms only understand you needs if you talk to them about what it is you are wishing. Again, talk is the key in a Master/slave relationship. So the more you talk, yes the more he will be understanding.
What is it you wish him to wait for? Meeting you? Set up a meeting, and before you met, talk about the things you wish to explore.. These are called limits or scenes to a play session. The more you scene the more you will explore. Alot of people do not have sex when they first meet, so this would be something you could consider. Just sit down and explain to him it is you are looking for in the first meeting, if he is a Dom he will understand.
