Expert: arani_CsA - 7/29/2008

Question
My perspective master has asked me on more than one occasion," Are you ready for a D/s relationship?"  I have answered "yes" to this question before.  Is he looking for me to say more than that?  Or does he mean something else when he asks me that?

Answer
Hello...

There are several different reasons why your Master might have been asking you such a thing.  Without being there and watching his body language and listening to his tone of voice, it's hard for me to tell which, but here are a few ideas.

It could be a training tool.  He may be wanting you to tell him WHY you think you are ready, and HOW you can show him that.  He may want a more detailed answer as to the thought processes you have been going through, or the ways that you have been preparing your body and your mind for his service.  In other words, a simple "Yes" may not be the answer he is looking for.

Or, it could be a means of correcting you when he wishes you to change either your behavior or your way of thinking.  For instance, if you haven't obeyed one of his commands as well as he thought you should have, or have showed some kind of behavior which he feels is not submissive enough, he could be challenging you.  "Are you ready for a D/s relationship?" could mean he doesn't think you're showing that you're ready.

Do you keep a journal?  Many Masters require it of their submissives, and other subs do it as a way of helping themselves keep track of all the changes in thought processes and beliefs that are occuring right now.  You can set up an account with Blogger or LiveJournal, or even a Yahoo group, so that only you and your Master can see what you've written there.  Be open and honest about what you're feeling and what you've learned about being a submissive, and also being submissive to your Master.  Share your deepest and most painful or revealing thoughts.  THIS is what many Masters look for.  Not just your actions, but your thoughts and feelings, belong to him.  Show him what he owns.

In truth, though, the only one who can answer this question is your Master, himself.  I can only guess what he's thinking or what he wants.  You probably need to discuss this with him.

Good luck to you.  If you have any more questions, feel free to send them my way.

arani_CsA,
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