Expert: Master Shadow - 7/30/2008

Question
Hello Sir.

I want to ask your advice if I may? I have recently started a relationship with a Dom, and he is totally acceptant of my own Dom tendencies, and is happy for me to see a couple of subs. I am not a total 24/7 Sub to him, as we also enjoy other things, but it is pretty dominant (no pun intended) in our lifestyle.

My main question is, I know that one thing that keeps him stimulated is being kept on his toes and as a sub, I am struggling to think how I can do this. I know that in the early days, simple playing hard to get worked well. But what now? There are so many books out there for Mistresses, yet I fail to find much for the other way around, apart from ‘Story Of ‘O’ and London’s Spank Daddy…. Any suggestions on reading materials or how to keep his mind active by keeping him on his toes?

Thanks and kind regards,

Lou. x

Answer
This requires imagination on your part. There is no one pat answer for this question, as what turns one person's crank may not turn another's. Without knowing more about the individual, you, and what you're both into, it would be almost impossible to answer this with any chance of really helping.

Kink ideas can be found almost anywhere, or anytime. As an example, I took a slave to a wilderness area one day out of the blue, got her out of the car, stripped her in the open, tied her hands behind her back, leaving her only her shoes. I then got back into the car, and slowly started driving off, towards a main highway. I was interested in seeing how far she would follow before balking. She did better than I expected.

It's things like that which I believe help keep things healthy. The spontaneousness of the act was more important than the act itself. Besides, by you trying to keep them on their toes, it keeps you on yours. Sorry I couldn't be more help with what I have. Feel free to write for further info.


                                            SINcerely in Leather,
                                            Master Shadow.