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I'm not sure this is so much of a question, more a seeking of someone who can point me in the right direction of my peers.  My husband of less than 2 years, whom I love and respect and admire recently opened up to me about his interested in seriously learning about D/s.  I know someone from years ago who is a Domme, and asked if she would help guide him.  Turns out they have developed a partnership.  Which I gave my blessing on, and am now making my husband miserable because I am freaking out about the whole situation.  I am just looking for guidance to realistic resources where I might communicate with others who have experienced this and successfully moved past it to a healthy happiness.  I want this with all my heart, and just need a little insight to get there.

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Have you looked in to local munches that you can attend?  It is a good way to have people that are close and you can talk with I know of a couple of groups that you might wish to join as a sub where you can vent and ask questions to allow other to give you a different point of view which can help.

If you would like the groups please e-mail me at awhitecloud@awhitecloud.org and I will be happy to pass them on to you.

Thank you,

Take a deep breath and try not to wig out.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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