Expert: Master Shadow - 8/27/2008

Question
QUESTION: can me and my master have a normal relationship.I love him as a master and care for him as a person.Hes going to collar me this weekend,im happy but scared too.Hes a very serious master but i know he cares for me and i have made a lot of changes in my life for this kind of life style.Bu my friends are telling me that i need to back off because this kind of life style is dangerous. i know what im doing and my master would never put me in harms way.Please help me...



ANSWER:  I would say yes, for the most part, keeping in mind of coarse that you ARE in a BDSM relationship. Actually, in My opinion, a D/s relationship goes deeper that most "nilla" relationships. The trust found between Top/Dominant, and sub/slave seems more real, in my opinion. Many people say "I'd trust my spouse with my life.", but how many actually have put that statement to the test?

Personally, since you state that you are familiar with the Lifestyle, know your Master well, trust Him implicitly, and are over 21 years of age, only you can make this choice. It is a personal choice, not one that is up for debate, as long as you weigh the pro's and the son's.

You sound like an intelligent person, with experience, and knowledge. You go into this with "Informed Consent", knowing that you will most likely be safe in your Master's care. So long as communications are kept open both ways, and He takes your needs, wants and concerns seriously, I would say go for it. This is the time for serious discussion as well. Each needs to be specific as to what T/they want out of this. A contract would be written in Our House, stating those in writing. The contract would also be dynamic enough to incorporate changes as they become necessary without rewriting the whole thing, so long as both parties agreed.

Whatever your choice, I wish the T/two of Y/you the best in Y/your Journey, and also extend Congratulations, if in order, for the new Collar.


         SINcerely in Leather,
         Master Shadow.


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QUESTION: Master,
         Thank you so much for helping me.I gave a lot of thought to what you said. You might think that im crazy but i love the gor life style and im also thinking about letting my master brand me. As you know sir the master would brand their slaves and i was willing to let my master brand me too. What is your opinion on that? I have also studied the positions that the slaves would do to please their masters. My outside friends thinks that this life stle is messing with my head but like you said im a grown person and the way i want to live my life is my own. I want to do this right for my master, so please dont get mad about all of the questions im asking you. And my master has no clue that im even writing you. Thank you so much for helping me.

Answer

Branding is done often these days as a part of a subculture in regards to tattoos and piercing. It has also found acceptance in the BDSM Lifestyle. If done properly, a brand can be a thing of beauty. Done wrong, it can leave a permanent scar that is slow to heal, becomes infected, and causes a lot of pain. That said, I would highly suggest that the branding be done either by someone familiar with branding humans, or under their direct supervision.

Avoid any design with circular patterns, or tight bends in them, as these tend to lift the skin in the area of the circle, or tight bend area. Go more for a flowing design, or lettering. These have a better chance of coming out correctly, with less chance of ruining the brand all together.

Be sure to have antibiotics on hand, to cover any chance of infection. Also, I would suggest some sort of pain medication, say about three days worth. That is something you will have to work out with your doctor. Also, check with the doctor in regards to any ointments, or salves that can be applied to aid healing. And as always, if the brand starts looking too bad, seek medical attention.

Treat the brand as if it were a severe, or third degree burn. All the usual first aid procedures apply, including, if necessary, treatment for minor shock. Realize that branding is painful, and be ready for it mentally. Apply cold to the affected area for at least five minutes after the branding. It will help to control how deep the damage from the brand goes, and how long it takes to heal afterwards.

I would also suggest that the branding be done while you are either in, or close to subspace. In this manner, the endorphins are already there to control pain, and the body is busy trying to take care of the damage. Plus, it will add to the scene if done properly. Remember, it WILL hurt, and you might scream, despite yourself. Make sure this is done where the music can be played loud, and the scream won't have the neighbors calling for help, if you get my drift. There would be nothing worse at that point than your Master being arrested for abuse, and you being taken where you can get "help". LOL

Best of wishes to Y/you B/both on Y/your journey.


         SINcerely in Leather,
         Master Shadow.