Expert: CougarDomme - 8/26/2008

Question
I am brand new to BDSM. I am dating an old school switch, wondering where I could go for lessons so I can surprise her with some good ole' old school dom technique. I don't need anyone to practice on, I need a top who is willing to take me under their wing and teach me.  Any suggestions?

I have had offers to practice on folks but nobody wants to teach me.

Thanks for any assistance.
Lynell

Answer
You should join a lifestyle group and learn from the group and the play parties.  I learned an awful lot just watching otner dommes. You can do some reading, I recommend "Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns" which is available at Amazon. You can also go here: www.sexuality.org and search BDSM and it will come up with a lot of info that will be helpful to you.  Remember the 3 main words: Safe, Sane and Consensual and go from there.  Negotiate the scene, respect ssfewords and pay attention to your partner.  Don't forget the aftercare!