Expert: CougarDomme - 9/14/2008

Question
It recently came out to my friend that I am a sub. He has consequently expressed interest in BDSM to me, more specifically, a Master/slave relationship. He has heavily sadistic tendencies which he needs to find an outlet for in a consensual manner. He has enlisted me to try and find him a real life slave, however he is only 17, which makes this issue much more complicated as it's impossible to attend meetings with the BDSM community, or attend clubs. I've told him to explore online, where he can find people with similar interests his own age, however he's set on the idea of having a physical relationship. What can I do to help him?

Answer
You can have him do some reading on the subject and learn since he is going to have a tough time.  There's not a chance in hell that he is going to be able to find a slave since he is a minor.  Additionally, most slaves are supported, housed, clothed and fed by their masters, which, unless he's a trust fund baby, he is incapable of doing.  Also, no slave/sub is going to let a teenager make their important decisions and decide what's best for them since he doesn't even have enough life experience to support himself.  He should find a BDSM community and observe and learn, he won't be able to find a slave who will trust him until he's at least 30, a college graduate and very gainfully employed.  It's just not going to happen--the best he can hope for is to find someone to bottom for scenes.