Expert: XR - 9/12/2008

Question

Hello!

i am currently a sub in training to my Dom who is a bi/switch.  For His pleasure, He wants me to switch and Domme Him.  He is my first and only Dom, so i am drawing on my own limited experiences with Him and know that if i brought something new and exciting to the times He commands me to switch, it would bring Him even MORE pleasure and pride in this girl.  He has had experience being topped by a fem before (a wonderful Domme!) and i was SO much to surprise Him and show Him how i am researching and learning to enhance HIS experience too *smiles*

W/we are not into extreme pain, blood, scat, kids, animals or piercing.  i would really like to have a special scene in the back of my mind that would surprise and WOW Him!

W/we have a good collection of bondage items, blindfolds, dildoes, vibrators, lubes, whips, paddles, crops, etc and have used all on E/each O/other to O/our mutual satisfaction.  What i do not have available at the moment is a strap-on, though Master has mentioned getting one for me.

Any help you can offer as far as being a female top to His bottom when he commands me to do so would be awesome!  i do need help with what to say to Him, what to make Him do, that is probably my weakest point.  i have a good understanding of the tools and toys W/we use.

Thank you in advance!

Angel

Answer
This is a tough question. You can't perhaps check his browser history to see what he might be into, can you? Having a good conversation about fantasies can be valuable so you can go into a scene with a good idea in mind and stay in that character. Communication is the cornerstone of BDSM relationships. The more you talk, the better you'll be.
 If you're going the strap on route, you might want to ask what his fantasy is regarding being penetrated. Does he like to imagine it's a guy, a girl with a strap on, a shemale, a drunk sorority girl, etc...? If I were to recommend a strap on (http://www.extremerestraints.com/strap-ons_36/), I'd get something in the Tantus Feeldoe family of strap ons, or the Fun Factory Share. We carry all of those at eXtremeRestraints.com. Although both of those are billed as strapless strap ons, most find that they're more comfortable with a harness. A friend of mine bought this one: http://www.extremerestraints.com/the-4-strap-ultimate-dildo-harness_1297.html along with the Feeldoe Slim, and she says that it works great.
 You might also want to try electrosex. With enough practice you can bring him to orgasm without even touching him. (http://www.extremerestraints.com/electrosex-gear_43/). If you turn up the power on those, you can also make it into a punishment toy.
 Good luck. I hope I helped you out at least a little bit.