Expert: awhitecloud - 9/2/2008

Question
Hi,
I'm a sub and I have been for almost 4 years now. When I was 16, I met the man that has since become my Master. It is mainly a sexual relationship, we have never been a couple. He is an ideal Master for me, he knows my limits, and which ones he can push, as well as being a good friend outside of the D/S part.

I want to have a romantic relationship as well, but its hard. I feel I belong to my Master, so in having a normal relationship with someone else I cant give them everything I feel I should. How can I belong with a partner if I belong to my Master?

I have tried finding someone who's Dom as a boyfriend, but they just cant replace my Master, and I can't go out with a sub as the personality clashes with mine too much.

Any ideas how I can find some way of reconciling having a relationship and a Master?

Answer
Well fist off I feel your pain in all of this.  I know for myself it was hard to have a partner and my Master.  But in time and with openness on all sides it happened and it did work out.  It was a lot of work and filled with some trying times as well.

Does your Master know how you feel?  Have you talked with him about this and even talked over the chance of the Master sub relationship changing at all? For my self that is where I would start with some long chats with my Master, to let him know what and how you feel, as well for you to learn from him what he thinks and feels.

Try this and let me know how it comes out please you know how to reach me if you still need help or even one just to talk to, I do wish you good luck.

awhitecloud