Expert: arani_CsA - 9/1/2008

Question
hi arani!
Thankyou for doing this...it is a very nice service that you do!

Obviously I am a guy. A Master for 15 yrs, but not now...

I am a klutz when it comes to keeping a woman happy...I just don't have a woman's brain, and can't think that way very well.

So I am interested in tools ...ideas ...techniques...websites...anything! I want to keep a woman happy,  enslaved and loving it.

I realize that this is a very open question, but hope it is still ok

Could I pick your brain in that regard?

Thankyou

Craig

Answer
Hello, Sir...

Thank you for coming to me with your question.  i hope i can help you find the answers you are looking for.

The solution to your problem sounds simple, but is in reality much more complex.  If we're talking about a slave, the way to keep her happy is to Master her.  We slaves are most fulfilled when we are controlled by a strong man (or woman), who lets us know very clearly what is expected of us and rewards us when we live up to those expectations.  We want to know that we are owned in every sense of the word; not just told what to do but also to be protected.  What woman, slave or vanilla, doesn't have chills run down her back when her Master/boyfriend/husband behaves possessively toward her?

You say you don't have a woman's brain, and yet that is exactly the way it should be.  Men and women are NOT equal, and shouldn't try to be.  We think differently, feel differently, respond differently.  And, i'll let you in on a secret.  Women WANT to be Mastered -- even vanilla women.  We Goreans like to say that a Free Woman is only a slave who has not yet been Mastered.  And i know that is true, because i started out in this lifestyle as a Domme -- until i met a man who simply wouldn't have it any other way than that i be his slave.  And i wouldn't go back for anything.

There are books, and probably websites, out there that can help you try to figure out how a woman thinks.  One of them is "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus," by John Gray.  Men have been trying for centuries to figure out how a woman thinks, but there are some people out there who are getting a better handle on this.  i'm reminded of the movie "What Women Want," where Mel Gibson had to have an accident that enabled him to read women's minds to figure out what they were thinking and what they wanted.    

Another thing you can do is to watch women, and spend time with them.  Be very observant as to what makes them happy, and fulfilled.  ASK them what they want.  When it comes to a prospective slave, ask her what she wants out of a relationship, and what she's looking for in a Master.  Some say that negotiation has no part in M/s relationships, but before the collar goes on it most certainly has a very important role in forming and developing what form that relationship will take.  In the end, it is up to you to know whether that slave can be molded into what you are looking for in a slave, and whether she will be happy with the transformations you will expect of her.  But a big part of that is how YOU respond to her when she does make those transformations.  

A couple of websites with specific information about being a Master:
http://www.rlslavery.com
http://www.esodom.com/essays.htm
http://www.leathernroses.com
http;//www.castlerealm.com

Good luck to you, Sir, in your search.  If you have any further questions, please send them my way.

arani_CsA,
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