Expert: arani_CsA - 9/15/2008

Question
My Master and I have more than a D/s relationship... we work together... with him being the owner and my boss of the company.... we have a friend and D/s relationship.... we do not live together and i have not been collar but am owned. I’m torn if I should tell him that I have fallen in love......it has been 6 months now since the D/s part come into play... should I wait till he asked me how I feel or should I just tell him?

Answer
Hello...

Thank you for coming to me with your question.  I hope I can help you find the answers you are looking for.  I do apologize for the delay in my response, due to massive power outages in our area after Hurricane Ike came through.

The first question that comes to my mind after reading your letter is this:  Do you love your Master?  If you do, then I wonder why you would even think of NOT telling him.  Any relationship that a person finds themselves in -- whether it be a husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend, father/son, brother/sister, or Master/slave -- both parties need to be open and honest with each other as to how they feel.

You say that you are not collared, but you are owned.  If you are owned, then you are "collared," whether you actually wear one or not.  In the lifestyle, saying you're collared is just another way of saying that you're owned.  

A D/s or an M/s relationship is far more intense than a vanilla marriage.  The attachment that each partner feels for the other is far deeper, and stronger.  For me, my collar is much more meaningful than my wedding ring.  It's very unusual for two people involved in such a relationship not to love each other, even though that love may take different forms.  Most Masters will demand nothing less than total and absolute devotion from their property, as that will ensure better obedience and surrender.  Most slaves (and submissives) will tell you that when you surrender yourself so completely to your Master, you can't help but fall in love.  I will say that I have never yet met a submissive or a slave who is in a committed relationship, who doesn't totally adore and worship their owners.  

So, yes, it's perfectly alright to tell your Master that you love him.  You might just be surprised when he tells you the same thing.

arani_CsA,
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