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Expert: Lady Aryana - 1/9/2009


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I hope you can point me in the correct direction, I am starting a new relationship and the guy is most definitely sub.  I personally lean towards sub but I would like to plan out a few scenes.  He is very open on what he likes and is very willing to push all "normal" limits.  I am very interested in being part of the play.  Can you suggest sites or books to guide me.
Many Thanks

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Robin,

Hope you are having a wonderful New Yr. Now as for books, there are a few you can check out..

Screw the roses, send me the thorns

SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance by Lorelei

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission

The Art Of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women - Paperback (Aug 1, 2000) by Claudia Varrin

This is a book I suggest you both read

The Compleat Slave: Creating And Living An Erotic Dominant/submissive Lifestyle  by Jack Rinella and Joseph W. Bean (Paperback - April 1992)

As for sites depends on what kind you are looking for.. You looking for groups where you can exchange idea's or are you looking for sites where you simply read.. I would suggest you put in FemDom in google or what ever search you use.. You will come up with a few that you can check out.. Although the Mistress Manual and The Art Of Sensual Female Dominance are two really good books to own and learn from..


Good luck

Marie

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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Old Guard, Victorn Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Email groups for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. I was collared to my Master, then we married Sept 25 2003. I am no longer in a relationship with him, although as D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either DD or D/s, or simply learning more in order to help others.

Experience

I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment although I am in a DD based relationship which has a very strong sense of D/s although it is NON sexual. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me, and at the moment I have to male slaves who would like to submit. Simply haven't had the time or place to do that yet. I know many egroups who can offer support. I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 22 yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I belong to the local BDSM community in AL, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and Old Guard. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

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