You are here:

BDSM/how to address my Master

Advertisement

Expert: Lady Aryana - 1/20/2009


Question
is there a proper way to address my Master in a social setting that contains people who are not in the lifestyle and still show respect. My Master asked me what i would call Him around my friends and i did not know if there was a "proper" name to call Him. Please help me.

Answer
Aisling,

This really is up to him... His wishes to what he would like you to address him when out in public this means around others in the lifestyle and while at wal-mart.

I would suggest using *Sir* when around kids or people who might be offended by the word *Master*. When around people who it wouldn't bother I would stay with Master at all times.

When I was collared it was Master at all times, unless there were alot of kids around and I knew that it would cause issues.. Even in wal-mart I would use Master as long as he was with in ear shot. If I had to *yell* it then I would use Sweet Heart, Dear, or his Name. This was more cause I didn't want to upset anyone in the store. While in our daughter's school I would use his name, or sweetheart.

The same applies to what he uses to call you. He would call me pet, girl when talking to me either in public or private.. If we were in a lifestyle setting it would be pet, girl, or slave. A vanilla setting, it would be girl or my name..

So really, you need to sit down with your Master and ask him what he wishes.. Talk about the affects of where you are and who you will be involving when you use Master and how it might cause problems. If he chooses to still have you call him Master, then this is his wish, and you need to follow his orders. If he decides to have you call him Sir, Daddy or anything else, then this is what you need to do.

The proper name is what he wants, that is the only thing you need to worry about.

Good luck and I wish you well

MrsMarie

BDSM

All Answers

Answers by Expert:

Ask Experts

Volunteer

Lady Aryana

Expertise

Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Old Guard, Victorn Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Email groups for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. I was collared to my Master, then we married Sept 25 2003. I am no longer in a relationship with him, although as D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either DD or D/s, or simply learning more in order to help others.

Experience

I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment although I am in a DD based relationship which has a very strong sense of D/s although it is NON sexual. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me, and at the moment I have to male slaves who would like to submit. Simply haven't had the time or place to do that yet. I know many egroups who can offer support. I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 22 yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I belong to the local BDSM community in AL, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and Old Guard. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

©2012 About.com, a part of The New York Times Company. All rights reserved.