Expert: ziggy ziegler - 1/21/2009

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QUESTION: dear ziggy slave,
how r u doing? been reading the room, enjoyed your feedback...:-). i am well. i did something ive never done; wrote a poem to my master today...hmm. he really loved it. he is a hard man to love i tell u. extremly disciplined and unyeileding in his expectations of me.

secret- i am married with a son..a six year old my hubby and i adopted. have been with him for almost twenty years...he is aware of my proclivity for the 'lifestyle'. and he, above all else knows what to say and how to satisfy me.. and i him.

evun so, this master that i met last year, has touched a deep part of my heart...of my soul. hmmm. sighing so deeply..he has the power to make me happy or sad just like that..snap!

anyways, just cking in and writing to find out how u are..hmm? read your profile..interesting....

ok, look forward to your feedback..and i hope u are well. is it allowed for u talk about yourself?

regards...eden

ANSWER: Dear Eden

I am well.. thank you for asking.

i am allowed to talk about myself but i don't tend to do that here. i tend to reserve casual conversations for private correspondences. And keep this space for direct questions.

Reading your post.. wow tough spot to be in, but it does sound like you have the ideal situation with a husband that knows of your interests in BDSM. With your budding feelings for this master i am wondering how he feels about you. Are the feelings mutual.. would seem hard if they weren't.

I have a group on fetlife that is for writings if you would like to share. i am sure readers would enjoy it.

Best to you and your master
slave ziggy

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QUESTION: Slaveziggy,
as always thanks for the thoughtful response..what is fetlife?

i am not in an ideal situation. i love my husband and i find that too i love my master. he loves me..my master that is..i can tell. but he wants me for himself. and while there are times the allure of giving myself over to this life full time appeals to my darker nature..there is a strong part of me that recognizes two central things..;one, the grass always seems greener on the other side.  two, i will never find a man like my husband. ok three..:-), i dont have it in me to destroy my husband by walking out on him.  evun so, evun so....this master of mine has me totally captivated..he always talks about taking me from here, or my coming to him for good...hmm.

sighing deeply again. i only know when my master and i are at peace..all is rite with the world.

at this stage in my life i should know better than to allow my peace of mind to be dependent on another. but this is the what it is.

anyways...so to u. u are allowed to talk about yourself but u prefer not to. yet do u see a tiny bit of discomfort i may feel im opening these secrets to someone who willna reciprocate? ah...u must do what makes u feel most comfortable...

look forward to your thoughts...for now, im out..dream sweetly..

regards, regards  

Answer
Dear Eden

Fetlife is a site friends of mine created.

WWW.fetlife.com

It is a place to read the thoughts and experiences of other slaves and submissives Masters and  Dominants. Its also a place where you can share your own thoughts feelings and experiences. They have a variety of groups that you might be interested in. I feel its an all around descent site.


As for your second inquiry. I fully understand feeling uncomfortable about sharing intimate details of your situation and your feeling of vulnerability. However, i am here to answer specific questions concerning M/s D/s and BDSM. On the other hand each of my answers are based on personal experience or what i have learned through my studies.

If you have specific questions about M/s d/s and BDSM i would be more than happy to try an answer them to the best of my ability.

Warmest regards
slave ziggy