Expert: arani_CsA - 1/13/2009

Question
I wrote to you before about what you described as a "sub drop." You mostly answered my question, but I wanted to address something my Dom and I do because we are so far away from each other.
I haven't seen him since last april, and most of our play is online and role-playing. While he never actually touches me, he does more intense things to me than he would ever in real life. But it's all just pretend.
My question is, how plausible is it that I go into sub-space when we are just having these online sessions? Never even actually hearing each others' voices, or seeing each other in person. There have been a few times when I've thought I've felt it, and I told him I did, and since he's been in this lifestyle much longer than me, I trust him when he tells me what I should be feeling.
I guess I'm just wondering if that happens to other people, or if you've heard of it happening before, sub-space through online role-playing?

Answer
Hello...

I'm glad to hear that I was able to be of help to you before.  I hope I can do the same thing again.

Your question addresses something that I once wondered about myself.  Several years ago, when I first ventured into this lifestyle, I was active in the role-playing chat rooms.  I had two on-line Masters before I met (and later married) the man who has owned me for almost nine years.  So I'm very familiar with the intensity of feelings that can come from that kind of life.

First of all, I will say that it is very plausible that you can go into sub-space during an on-line interaction with your Dom.  It's even possible for you to have an orgasm without his ever having physically touched you.  I know, because this happened to me quite often.  If anything, it speaks to how deep your surrender is, and how strong your connection with your Dom.

Even now, what pushes me down into sub-space most is when my Master reminds me of his power over me, and especially when he demonstrates that to others.  What binds me to him is not the collar around my neck, but the feelings of surrender that I feel when in his presence.  He doesn't need to physically force me to do his will; I willingly submit without any kind of coercion on his part.  Yes, I am a mild masochist, but that's not what really gets me going.

The most powerful sexual organ in the body is not the breasts or the clitoris, but the mind.  I'm the kind of person that cannot have an orgasm unless I feel a physical connection to my partner, no matter how skilful a lover he might be.  When I was active in the chat rooms, my friends used to have cybersex with one hand on the keyboard and one hand on their own bodies.  But I didn't need to do that; I could do fine using just my own imagination.  And I wasn't alone in that; I had a friend who would have an orgasm just from seeing a particular Master's name appear in the chatters' list.

What this means is that you are exceptionally susceptible to suggestion, from your Dom or from anyone else you can feel a mental connection with.  While this is good in one sense, it also means that you are somewhat vulnerable.  You need to be careful not to place yourself in a situation where someone might be able to take advantage of this aspect of your personality.

This is not something that happens only on line.  It's something that a skillful Dom will make use of in face-to-face contacts as well.  My own Master has trained me so that I can orgasm at the mere sound of a voice command from him.  And he's not alone in this; being able to train a slave in this way is a hallmark of the Master's control over her.  A part of me lives in fear of being in Wal-Mart some day, when he walks past and whispers a certain word in my ear -- because I would surely embarrass myself severely.

In all truth, however, this kind of thing can be a lot of fun.  You might want to discuss it with your Master, and ask him to explore it with you.  Long-distance relationships can be frustrating at times, whether they be of the M/s variety or not.  We slaves are trained to live on the brink of ecstasy, and to crave the slightest touch from our Masters.  And the longer the time between those touches, the more intense the need -- and the pain -- can be.  Knowing that you don't need that physical sensation to experience release can be a tremendous gift for you and your Master.

Have fun, and enjoy your gift.  Feel free to bring me your questions at any time.

arani_CsA,
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