Expert: Eirene Nayar - 10/28/2009

Question
Hi,
I am completely new to this entire world. My Master, is someone that I trust 100%, so that is the only reason I am acting on my desires at this time. I have been "training" as he has suggested, but it has been 6 weeks and he has yet to be able to start this process with me. I want badly to be his naughty little sex slave, but I am getting frustrated and want to start soon. He has asked me to tell him my fantasies, and tell him what punishments turn me on and why. He asks me to send him pictures, but I feel like I can't get him  the "quality"ones he wants. I am having trouble wrapping my brain around what I am about to enter. Therefore, my imagination won't open up so I can fulfill the requests he has asked for.
What suggestions do you have for me so I don't get frustrated and decide to back out before even getting started?

Answer
Hello Amy,

You leave out so much that it is hard for me to answer specifically.  You do not mention what the training is  so that I am confused about what process you are ready to get started with.  Training could be the process depending on what it is.  BDSM is more a lot more then sex so I think over all its a good thing he has not yet started that training.  A Master needs to learn his slave just as a sub needs to learn her Master.  This should never be rushed.  You should discuss the frustration you are feeling with him.  Slaves above all need to learn and practice patience.  In a M/s relationship its about you tuning yourself to your Master's desires and needs.  You are not yet ready to be his "naughty little sex slave"  if this is at the forefront of your mind then that is a warning sign to me.  And you fail to mention if this is to be a 24/7 lifestyle or just bedroom play?  Very very different criteria. Also one other thing alarming to me.  After 6 weeks you trust him 100% already?  Slooooow down.  My number one strong suggestion...Slow down long lasting M/s relationships take time.  Trusting someone you have not known very long is dangerous.  And patience patience patience.  If you do not understand what he wants *ask* don't guess.  I hope this has been of some help to you.  Your question was so vague it was difficult to answer.