About awhitecloud Expertise Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 15 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle.
Experience I have been active in the community for over 18 years. I have been helping people for the last 10 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications.
Organizations Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot
Publications D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal"
Education/Credentials I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.
Awards and Honors I have several for best article of the month
Question i am in a D/s online relationship right now, W/we are going to go real life soon. He has been open and honest with me as far as Him wanting a poly relationship,and He has been understanding somewhat to my feelings about it. Truthfully this is something i cannot give Him, the subject hasn't been brought up until this morning because of someone new He is talking to. He wants me to become friends with her, to talk to her and stuff incase her and i get along she could be in the poly. The thing is it isn't jealousy, insecurity or anything like that, it is that my love for Him is so deep the thought of someone else doing the things i'm suppose to do makes me physically sick, just the thought of someone else touching Him feels like something inside me is being ripped apart. i want to please and serve Him and be the sub i'm suppose to be but i won't be able to give Him this one thing. i have tried reading and understanding about it but deep down inside it hurts. So i guess my question is do you have any advice as to what i should do about this situation?
Answer poly is not for e everyone. And he should never be upset if you can not get into it. As a sub you are allowed limits and this is not a limit nothing more. You need to talk with him about how you feel, be open and honest with him as well.
I know for myself I feel bad to a point, and then it is okay for it gives me more time to tend to other needs of the Dom well he is with the other. I have had always somethings that where done just with me and being the first gilr where done with no one else, and this helped a lot and it held my place with in the unit as well.
I hope that I have been even a little bit of help, feel free to ask more I will try to help you out.
