Expert: awhitecloud - 10/16/2009

Question
i am in a D/s online relationship right now, W/we are going to go real life soon. He has been open and honest with me as far as Him wanting a poly relationship,and He has been understanding somewhat to my feelings about it. Truthfully this is something i cannot give Him, the subject hasn't been brought up until this morning because of someone new He is talking to. He wants me to become friends with her, to talk to her and stuff incase her and i get along she could be in the poly. The thing is it isn't jealousy, insecurity or anything like that, it is that my love for Him is so deep the thought of someone else doing the things i'm suppose to do makes me physically sick, just the thought of someone else touching Him feels like something inside me is being ripped apart. i want to please and serve Him and be the sub i'm suppose to be but i won't be able to give Him this one thing. i have tried reading and understanding about it but deep down inside it hurts. So i guess my question is do you have any advice as to what i should do about this situation?

Answer
poly is not for e everyone.  And he should never be upset if you can not get into it.  As a sub you are allowed limits and this is not a limit nothing more.  You need to talk with him about how you feel, be open and honest with him as well.

I know for myself I feel bad to a point, and then it is okay for it gives me more time to tend to other needs of the Dom well he is with the other.  I have had always somethings that where done just with me and being the first gilr where done with no one else, and this helped a lot and it held my place with in the unit as well.

I hope that I have been even a little bit of help, feel free to ask more I will try to help you out.

awhitecloud