Expert: Mistress Violette - 10/1/2009

Question
1st thank You for taking time out for a strangers question Its very kind of You my situation is this iv been in a long distance relationship with my Master close 2 a year he's the only Master that has ever tamed me i devoted myself as fully as possible so far apart (we have spent some time in person 2gether) Master was a gore Master he says he can leave that behind 4 me im dianic and couldn't  bear the way my goddess name is used in gore he also promised it would be just us no other girls, until i felt secure& never other men he promised me i was the only girl he was talking 2 i found out 2 days ago he has multiple sites with girls iming texting and calling all the time i feel iv lost all trust in him & doubt all he's told me in 2 weeks he exspects me 2 be living with him i love him deeply but im very skittish and afraid2 find out all the promises were just 2 keep me happy and compliant i know is i don't join him in 2 weeks he'll be gone forever that's deeply painful also idk what 2 do risk everything for a chance 2 be happy or advoid a potential very bad situation and be with out him forever i hope You understood everything thank You very sincerely respetful  sublimity

Answer
Hello, Sublimity,

I think it's important to reach out to others in the community, as I imagine most of the other experts do. People helped me when I had questions, so it's nice to be able to give back a little. Thank you for recognizing what we're doing.

Your situation sounds difficult and it makes sense that you have questions. I hope I can give you some perspective that will help you make a good decision.

Even though this is your first master, you're aware of how important trust is and you're feeling the effects of having yours broken. Since you've found that he lied about one thing, I think you're right to wonder if he has lied about anything else. With that very valid concern, you need to ask yourself it's either safe or sane to pack up and move in with him. It's possible he'll be able to make things right, but what if he can't? What would you do then, where would you go, who would be your support system? See if you can change your frame of reference and evaluate the answers to those questions as if someone else were answering them. See if the answers make sense and be guided by that.

Also, factor in that moving in with someone is a big step. Consider if you would be concerned about someone who took that step with someone she didn't trust. This is supposed to be something joyful but you're feeling indecision and unhappiness. It's usually wise  to have faith in your instincts.

You may be thinking you have some obligation to him because you consented to be his full time slave. That's not true, Your obligation is to watch out for yourself. Even if that weren't so, your obligation would end when he didn't hold up his end of the bargain and keep the promises he made.

The choice is yours, Sublimity. I hope what I've said will help you make the best one for you. I wish you the best.

Mistress Violette