Expert: Oscar G. - 11/5/2009

Question
Experimenting with this, have met a sub online and I'm not sure how to "handle" him, have asked for limits which has been provided, but not sure what to ask him to do on cam or with others while I watch.

Looking for some direction as all new to me.


Answer
Hi Rita:

Well the sky is the limit as to what you can ask. As long as limits are respected. But what specifically should be asked? Depends on if you want to be pleased or you want to please him. Depends if you are training or conditioning him toward a particular goal or behavior. But basically if it is a camera online it is all about performance. And what you can ask him will depend if you want to humiliate him or you want to be aroused or you want to arouse him and direct him to either of those goals.  Once you define that, start to be specific also and go for things and activities toward that end.

As a Dom in charge you are the director/writer/producer of the scene, and your sub is the actor/prop medium for you to express whatever erotic story you want to create. It is up to you what kind or story it will be and how sweet, naughty, nasty or severe you want to be. As i mentioned you have to figure out your goal/objective for yourself and the one for him. And figure how to enable your sub to achieve what you need and want from him.

For inspiration you can read the type of erotica you like and enjoy and follow  YOUR own fantasies, and be thankful you have a sub, whom will follow your lead.

I hope this gives you a clue on the right direction to follow.
Best of luck in your discovery.
Oscar G.