Expert: awhitecloud - 11/16/2009

Question
Greetings Sir,

i hope that You are well. i stumbled upon Your profile while seeking answers for my dilemma. i have recently given a name to the submissive traits that i have had since childhood. This has brought tension to my one year marriage that was already strained from wide cultural and age differences. Three months ago - i took the collar of my Master - who lives very far away. i did tell him i was married shortly after i was collared - yes Sir, i know it was wrong not to tell Him up front. i did not expect to fall so deeply in love with anyone.
Anyway Sir, how do i reconcile my feelings for my Master and my husband? is this typical of submissive women who find themselves in my situation? i love my husband but - not the same why i love my Master.

i would appreciate any input -as i am sorely confused. Master is doing His best to help me work through this but i'm a worrywart at heart.

Love and blessings on You and Your household,
daniela

Answer
have you told your husband?  Does he know about the lifestyle?

First you need to be honest with both men.  Then you need to look at something else, it is possible to love two people.  Is the Dom ever going to be a set up where you have R/t with him? Why not the three of you sit down and talk about this the Master might be able to help with your Hubie?  But you would first have to ask the Master if he is willing to keep you on.  Do you still have your collar?  If so that is a shock, for everyone I know would have taken it, with the not being honest alone.

Your in a mess and the only way out is to start talking to your Hubie.

Thank you

awhitecloud