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i am interested in how a (heterosexual) female submissive can creatively please a Domme, and how this relationship is unique from that of a M/f dynamic. Are there sources for more reading on this topic? Do You have insight into this? i have experience as a submissive to a Master, but am working to transition my service to a Mistress. thank You!
hey, sally
I see your question has been languishing in our "question pool" for some weeks.
So, let's talk Master/slave structures to be sure I'm on your page. You're considering shifting from a male to a female master. I suppose my initial question would be what sort of slave to you intend to be for your Mistress? Sex slave?? Service slave? Personal assistant? What does she seek?
If I (as a man) took a male slave, it would be as a major domo or personal assistant.
If you want tons of input, join www.Fetlife.com. It's free. There are many groups that you can join where a question such as this will get you dozens of answers.
I'm owned, by the way. I've served my Owner (female) for over seven years. It is not sexual service. She gave me a sex slave for that purpose. I please my Owner by taking her dancing, providing stimulating conversation, fixing things, serving as her Personal Assistant, taking her on trips, etc.
Hope that helps,
In Leather,
Bob
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Robert Rubel
Expertise
Master/slave theory and practice, using protocols to make your world special, communication glitches within the M/s framework, serious problem solving in an M/s relationship, fire play.
Experience
Author of:
Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice;
Protocol Handbook for the Female slave (The gender-free version is titled:
Protocol Handbook for the Leather slave. They are essentially the same.)
M/s Relations: Communications 401 - the Advanced Course;
M/s Relations: Solutions 402 -- Living in Harmony
There are other books, but only these are relevant to this category.
... and a few others. By the way, my slave is on the far left, and my Owner is in the middle. We've been together over six years, and have lived as a Leather Family since June, 2006.
Organizations
MAsT, NLA-I
Publications
See my website: www.RubelPresents.com and go to the "publications" tab.
Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison.
Have presented over 30 times in 2007 and 2008 at major weekend Leather and BDSM conferences. These are all listed on my website, www.RubelPresents.com along with all my presentation topics.
Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008
Past/Present Clients
I am currently mentoring two people, listed on my FetLife profile of Dr_Bob. I particularly enjoy mentoring FemDommes -- they often listen better. I have successfully transformed a select number of people. It's not a question of what I offer, it's a question of what you bring to the table.
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