Expert: awhitecloud - 11/7/2009

Question
i have written a couple of questions to you before and your advice has been helpful. i am new to the D/s lifestyle and things keep popping up with my Master. When we were talking the other night he was talking about wanting sex with someone else until i can move, i expressed my feelings about and he began to lay this huge quilt trip on me about how if he doesn't get to have sex he will get blue balls so bad he will end up in the hospital and everything. well to make a long story short he maid me feel guilty about my feelings, and how i should consider his needs and what he wants. the guilt was so much i gave in and i do not feel right about this. Is it allowed for a Dom to lay on such quilt to a sub that she gives in even when she is not comfortable with the situation?

Answer
okay, in my book he can always masturbate all on his own.  I do not think it was right to make you give into something that you did not feel was right.  He did not respect your feeling and was only thinking with his dick and balls.  Sorry, but I do not find that a way a good Dom should be at all.  So if that is what he is doing you should be out with other men until you move in as well so that your never horny we would not want to see you end up in the hospital because your ovaries did not get to produce enough hormones for the lack of sex.

I am sorry that might have been out of line...but I hate it that Men do this to subs, and I am sick of seeing subs cut off the values they hold to please a Dom...no Dom has the right to ever make that happen.

I hope that maybe this helps you....and I wish you could have just walked away from that conversation and never gave in on your stand.

Hugs

awhitecloud