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What is the difference between a Domme, Mistress and Mommy?
kimberly,
That is kinda one of those questions where it depends on what setting you are talking about..
A Domme is someone who you play with once in a while, not someone you are collared to. A friend who happens to know what you enjoy but you trust enough to submit to on certain terms
A Mistress is someone who you are collared to, and has more say so on what you can and can not do on a regular basis.. She decides what kind of play is going to happen based on what limits you both have agreed on before the collaring.
A Mommy is someone who takes on a role as a parent, 99% of the time it is NON sexual, although some relationships will have some form of sexual exchange in them but normally it is not with the submissive or the Parent.
Now depending on the relationship you might start out with a Domme, move to a Mistress, and end up with a Mommy in the long run, or you might end up doing a Mommy daughter scene every so often. Some people find that their limits expand slowly the longer they are with someone, so the find that what hard limits they had put out to start with disappear over time.. Like some say they will not do diapers, but after a time, find that it is a turn on or something they want to try , so their Dom turns into a Mommy for a night or two..
Hope this helps
Lady Aryana
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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Old Guard, Victorn Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Email groups for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. I was collared to my Master, then we married Sept 25 2003. I am no longer in a relationship with him, although as D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either DD or D/s, or simply learning more in order to help others.
Experience
I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment although I am in a DD based relationship which has a very strong sense of D/s although it is NON sexual. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me, and at the moment I have to male slaves who would like to submit. Simply haven't had the time or place to do that yet. I know many egroups who can offer support. I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 22 yrs in BDSM in one way or another
Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I belong to the local BDSM community in AL, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.
Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.
Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and Old Guard. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.
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