BDSM/Top drop

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Expert: - 11/5/2009


Question
I have been involved in a D/s relationship for 5 years. It has been extremely rewarding in a multitude of ways. I would like to ask what, in your experience, are the signs of "Top drop"? And as the devoted one, what can I do to help if that is the case?  

Answer
Sometimes life just gets to busy and the Dom caring so much on his plate just needs a brake from it all.

You can help to keep yourself accountable, with logging in your chores, and making sure to just have time to go over them with the Dom even if it is once a week.

You need to talk about it and see what things you can help him with for awhile, he might jsut need you to take a short brake with him as well.  I know that when we went that rout, it was very hard on e.  I did keep to the set rules and my chores, I just had no help and I had to push myself at times to keep learning and to stay on track that I still needed for my life.  Luckily it only lasted for a few months and he slowly came back into his game and all was great once again.

I hope this helps, and hang in there....remember to keep talking and never stop talking with each other.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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