Expert: Lady Aryana - 11/16/2009

Question
Hi....
I am a married lady of age 25. My husband's age is also the same. We are living in India. I am a sadist lady and my husband is a masochist. We are new to femdom but we are practicing it sharply.
We are honest to each other and we have had no sexual or femdom relationship with anyone else and we will not. We usually have femdom two days per week(2-3 hours in night), earlier we had everyday and after you advised us to have vanilla sessions too (when my husband asked questions in allexperts) we only have it for 2 fixed dates per week and one is a punishment session ehich is bit extreme, where I am free to punish him upto any pain but without hurting him(simply says I only want to give him much pain causing no permanent hurts). I am not punishing him for no reason each punishment is for the mistakes he has done. There I punish him like a mother punish her child for mistakes but here I am extreme than a mother since he is a grown man who can bear more.

I want to torture to maximum possible pain but causing no physical harm to him. We are not 24/7 femdom, we only do it during the sheduled time and there will not be any mercy during session So far I have been doing the following things on punishment sessions....
1.Caning(Cane & Belt)rely on the ass usually and put alcohol on the bleeding marks....
2.Putting "bam" in his anus....
3.Having him kneel on uncooked rice & face slapping.....
4.Biting (chest, shoulder, back) and the marks disappear after one week....
5.Putting a rubber band around his hand, pulling it and releasing it suddenly....
6.Face Sitting with half cleaned ass........

I never do CBT since i feel it is risky. And we don't like to do it.
I would like to use needles but If you can advice me the save places to apply needles.
Please suggest me all the possible methods to inflict pain to him but in a safe manner.....
He said that he surrendered to me completely and I am entitled to do anything on him but I love him truly and I don't want to cause him any serious hurt...Though it is very painful he said he will them for me and he said "I am your property, you are my owner, so you can punish me up to any extent you want, I am your slave and should accept anything you do to me". His respect and love on me made him surrender to me deeply. He is helpless during sessions since his only way of survival is begging be for mercy. We are respected couple in society and no one else knows our femdom life since it is strange to our culture....

And what are your suggestions to prevent his loud screams I am not using gag because I always want him to beg and scream. But sometimes his screams are louder than what it should be.

Looking forward to hear some severe punishment methods.....Thanks.

Answer
Suvetha

First off let me suggest a few books you should order, you can get them off Amazon.com


The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance

The Art Of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women

They have some really good advice for some torture in which you can do to your boy which is safe but at the same time can be considered painful. As for the advice I gave your boy, I think you need to go through and read what he wrote me, If I remember correct what you are saying compared to what he said.. From what I remembered he was saying you where to hard on him and he couldnt handle what you were giving him, which is why I said what I said to him, Now I may have him confused with someone else, if I do I am sorry.

As for CBT, it is always safe if you are aware to what you are doing.. You simply need to make sure you do not puncture the ball sack. Other then that, you are fine.. You will be surprised to find just what the balls and cock will be able to endure.. One thing I have found that is painful but very fun, and something called a zipper. You attach 10 to 20 clothes pins to a piece of string, then place them all over the balls and cock.. Leave them there for a time period, and then take the middle of the string, and without warning, pull them off. The pain it causes is just so intense you will find they will want to fly off anything you have them laying on.

As for the crys, I am not sure what to say about that, Maybe a small ball gag would work, maybe your panties? Not something what will fill his mouth completely but something that will muffle the sounds just enough where you can still hear him but at the same time wont allow him to scream completely..

Just use your imagination I am sure you can think of alot of things, once you get to thinking, it will become endless... good luck

Lady Aryana