Expert: ziggy ziegler - 11/23/2009

Question
hi..tomorrow a slave I have been talking to is supposed to be here on a bus. what I am trying to do is ask advice on some of the best ways to establish dominance up front, which means before the sun goes down I would like to have that understood. what ways would you suggest? she claims to have 5 years with a sadistic Master in the past. thank you!!

Answer
Interesting question.

Finding ways to establish dominance first comes from what you know about the role of a dominant or master and then what you know about the person and what her trigger points are (not emotional triggers but submissive triggers) What works for one person may not work for you and in fact if it doesn't work for you it may make you look foolish, especially if  the submissive has more experience.

My recommendation is don't try so hard... you are receiving an adult, who if she is coming to be with you understands the role you are in and should not  need you to "establish" your dominance though some activity... but rather already accepts your role. I am confident that you will find things that appeal to both of you.... you may wish to have her serve you but then you would need to know what you want from her.

Because she is coming to you by bus, i am assuming you have talked via online... however, as you know being in real time is vastly different. Might i also recommend taking it slow... set a few rules,,, how she presents to you, how she is to address you, if you are at home how she will dress or not, if you go out how will she sit.... where will she sleep.... if you have sex will she ask to cum before she does,,,, and the list goes on,,, you can take any interaction and make it an opportunity for D/s to shine though...

Asking here is ok but really in the end you have to discover for yourself what master you will based SOLELY on who you are naturally...

I hope that helps in some way...

warmest regards
slave ziggy
House of Talonstar