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Expert: Eirene Nayar - 12/12/2009


Question
I am just being brought into the lifestyle, and last night I was collared. I'm very excited, but still somewhat apprehensive. Am I jumping into this too quick?

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Hello Jennifer,

Yes, you jumped in way to fast.  Being collared is a serious serious choice that should be made after lots of things have been talked about.

How long has this person been a dominant?
What are they looking for in a slave?  
What are you looking for in a Master?
Is it 24/7 lifestyle?  Or just the bedroom?
Do you have the same kinks?  Have you filled out a BDSM card?
Does he want or have other slaves?
How long have you known him?
How much training do you have?
What does being a slave mean to you?


When you accept a collar you accept someone elses control over your life..and literally they have your life in their hands...

Now, you answer for me...Did you jump in to fast?



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In a deep bonded Master slave relationship you submit yourself..body, soul, heart...everything. Not in one day or even a couple months..its a gradual progression. And the more you give up to your Master the happier and more carefree and more devoted in service you will become. You will not "loose you" you will find you. Everything else falls away to reveal the true you..unprotected by the walls needed in conventional society. You will feel more free in your bondage of slavery then you ever did in the vanilla world. All the dreams your heart ever searched for come full circle and a sense of peace and completeness pervades your body. I can help you with the discovery of learning if this life is right for you. Issues with the dynamics of the Master slave relationship. How to be the very best slave. How to know if a Master is the right fit for you. Dealing with the heartbreak and emotions when the relationship ends. How a polyamory household can work. What it means to accept a collar. Slave protocol. Long Distance relationships. How to take an online relationship and make it real life.

Experience

I have been a collared slave for over 2 1/2 years. I started knowing nothing at all and have built on this over that time. So my experience is through actual experience. However I also remember what its like to be knew to the lifestyle. With all the fears, anxieties and excitement that has.

Education/Credentials
I have a bachelor's degree in sociology.

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