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Expert: - 12/8/2009


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Me and my fiancee have a slightly unusual situation, and we're both feeling stuck as what to do. See, i'm a switch and she's my sub, but both of us feel that we want something more. Namely, i need someone to take care of my submissive tendancies and she needs someone that will take a diffrent "Angle" to her punisment and needs. Problem is finding someone, since we're both looking for one guy to be master to both of us, we kinda feel stuck. This is worsened by the fact that though i'm outgoing, she's shy and going out to clubs is near impossible. Do you have any suggestions as to what we should do or how we should go about this? We're both "Pets" who just want a master, but outside of each other neither has had any involvment with the "Community" or other people (Both virgins until each other, both self taught)

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I can tell you to attend local munches and try sites like www.Collarme.com or www.fetlife.com to see if you can find anything there.  The best way I have found personal is to get involved in your local area activities and get to know people that way you may find one that can help you both.

Good luck and I hope you do find someone...Let me know if there is anything else I can do for you.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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