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Expert: Eirene Nayar - 12/29/2009


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 hello. i want to find a master/ mistress. do you know anyone who might fit the job or an idea on how i might find one?

Answer
No person could or should chose a Master/Mistress for another person.  Its such a personal meshing of personalities.

I would suggest finding local BDSM groups in your area by doing a internet search.  Then getting to know people within the lifestyle that way.

Before you go looking for a Master or Mistress sit down and write out what you think you have to offer to a Dom/me.  Then write out 10 things that you are looking for in that person.

If you don't know what you are looking for you will never find it.

Go slow in the search and take your time.  Learn the qualities of a good submissive so that you can offer yourself as the best you know how to be.

Don't jump at the first collar that is offered you.  Submissives who jump from collar to collar lose all respect in the BDSM world with dominants and slaves.

Its a fascinating incredible world.  Good luck in your search.

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Eirene Nayar

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In a deep bonded Master slave relationship you submit yourself..body, soul, heart...everything. Not in one day or even a couple months..its a gradual progression. And the more you give up to your Master the happier and more carefree and more devoted in service you will become. You will not "loose you" you will find you. Everything else falls away to reveal the true you..unprotected by the walls needed in conventional society. You will feel more free in your bondage of slavery then you ever did in the vanilla world. All the dreams your heart ever searched for come full circle and a sense of peace and completeness pervades your body. I can help you with the discovery of learning if this life is right for you. Issues with the dynamics of the Master slave relationship. How to be the very best slave. How to know if a Master is the right fit for you. Dealing with the heartbreak and emotions when the relationship ends. How a polyamory household can work. What it means to accept a collar. Slave protocol. Long Distance relationships. How to take an online relationship and make it real life.

Experience

I have been a collared slave for over 2 1/2 years. I started knowing nothing at all and have built on this over that time. So my experience is through actual experience. However I also remember what its like to be knew to the lifestyle. With all the fears, anxieties and excitement that has.

Education/Credentials
I have a bachelor's degree in sociology.

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