Expert: Lady Aryana - 2/12/2009

Question
Hi.  I have recently moved across country from my Dom.  We both feel that I, and our relationship, would thrive with a slave contract in place but are having difficulty finding examples of contracts that are geared towards long distance relationships.  I'm interested in something that details weekly tasks or something like that.

Can you assist with this?

Answer
Zoe,

I am not sure just what you are looking for when you say a Long Distance contract.. There are alot of other things to take into consideration when you create a contract.

Time, your work, his work, private time, how often if at all if you meet, are you talking on the phone, or is this just a Online relationship.

I will give you some examples of a few contracts I have and you can decide from there just what you are looking for.

Submission Agreement

This document is the formal, total sexual submission agreement between Dom & sub.


General Notes

1.  This contract is a 'living' document.  In other words, it can be re-negotiated at any time, at the request of either sub or Dom's.  Some latitude will be given to both sub and Dom, during the initial four weeks, as they both adjust to this agreement.

2.  This contract will be examined in detail at six monthly intervals.

3.  This contract may be temporarily suspended in the event of emergency or need for complete re-negotiation.

4.  It is freely entered into, by both signatories, after exhaustive negotiations.


sub agrees to:

1.  Offer her complete sexual submission agreement to , within the pre discussed limits, as defined on the final page of this document.

2.  Obey, without question, any order given her by Dom (again, within the limits).

3.  Report for discussion anything she/he isn't happy with, as soon as  possible.

4.  Accept any punishments awarded her/him for failure to obey orders.  (Excepting that she/he may, at any time, ask for an explanation of the punishment.)

5.  Sleep naked, or partially clothed, according to Dom's instructions, at all times.

6.  Obey any instructions given her/him as to orgasm control exercises, clothing etc.  This may be in the form of telephoned instructions, during the day, while Dom is at the office.

7.  Address the Dom/me as "Sir", Master/Mistress,"Maam"  in the bedroom, during scenes etc.

8.  Maintain watch, ensuring that Dom remains worthy of her/his submission.

9.  Wear a symbol of her/his submission at all times.  This may take the form of a bracelet/collar initially, but may vary in the future.

10.  Keep her pussy/balls completely shaved at all time, unless Dom decides otherwise.  (exceptions to this include impending smear tests and similar)

11.  Not to disobey or refuse any orders given after 9 pm, or other such time as the kids are in bed.

12.  In addition to (11), all orders given after 6 pm, in preparation for play, must also be obeyed.


Dom agrees to:

1.  Accept and care for subs submission.

2.  To explain, where, necessary, any orders given.

3.  To discuss anything subs feels unhappy or confused about, as soon as possible.

4.  To administer fair punishments and, when necessary, explain the need for them.

5.  To do everything in his/her power to remain worthy of the trust subs places in him by her/him signing of this agreement.

6.  To use sub extensively and well.

7.  Not to give unreasonable orders on days when sub's workload is heavy.

8.  To assist, as much as possible, around the house, in order for sub to be fit for play.  (work to be finished by 6 pm)



These limits are considered to be negotiable:

In other words, should sub or Doms wish to alter them at any time, they will be discussed.

1.  Doms will at no time place his unprotected cock in subs mouth, as squidgy things make her/him physically sick. If this is a problem.

2.  No extreme pain/sensation: needles, piercing, knives etc.

3.  No public play.

4.  No humiliation.

5.  Any heavy scenes must be discussed and planned in advance.  For example:  rape scenes.

6.  That sub has at least two nights in seven off.

7.  No play during the first two days of subs period. If female

8.  3.  No 3D D/s activity (sexual or otherwise) with another man or woman.

Assumed to be non-negotiable limits:

1.  No water sports.

2.  No D/s activity in front of the kids.

3.  No erotic photographs, of sub or Dom are to be shown to a third party.  (this includes videos, should the opportunity arise)

We do both, of our own free wills, agree to the terms of this contract.

(Signatures and dates here)

Note this agreement should be set based upon your situation and lifestyle

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greement of Service

 I,  <submissive name>   With free mind and open heart; do request of <Dominate's name>   That he accept the submission of my will unto his and take me into his care and guidance, that we may grow together in love trust and mutual respect. The satisfaction of his wants, desires, and whims are consistent with my desire as a submissive to be found pleasing to him, To the end, I do offer him use of my time, talents, and abilities.

 Further, I ask, in sincere humility, that, as Master, he accept the keeping of my body for the fulfillment and enhancement of our sexual, spiritual, emotional and intellectual needs. To achieve this, he may have unfettered use of my body any time, anyplace in front of anyone; to keep or to give away, as he will determine.
 I ask that he guide me in any sexual, sensual, or scene related behavior, both together with and separated from him, in such a way as to further my growth as a person.

 I request     , as My Master, that he use the power vested in his role; to mold and shape me; assisting me to grow in strength, character, confidence, and being, and that he continue to help me develop my artistic and intellectual abilities.
 In return, I agree:

To obey his commands to the best of my ability.
To Strive to overcome feelings of guilt or shame, and all inhibition that interfere with my capability to serve him; and limit my growth as his submissive.
To maintain honest and open communication.
To reveal my thoughts, feeling and desires without hesitation or embarrassment.
To inform him of wants and perceived needs, recognizing that he is the sole judge of weather or how these shall be satisfied.
To strive toward maintenance of a positive self-image and development of realistic exceptions and goals.
To work  with him to become a happy and self fulfilled individual.
To work against negative aspects of my ego and my insecurities that would interfere with advancement these aims.

My surrender as a submissive is done with the knowledge that nothing asked of me will demean me as a person, and will in no way diminish my own responsibilities toward making utmost use of my potential. In recognition of my family obligations, nothing will be required of me in anyway damage or harm my children, nor interfere with the performance of my duties of a mother or a wife.
 This I,   , do entreat, with lucidity and the realization of what this means, both stated and implied, in the conviction that this offer will be understood in the spirit of faith, caring, esteem and devotion in which it is given.

 Should either of us find that our aspirations are not being well served by this agreement, find this commitment to burdensome, or for any reason wish to cancel, either may do so by verbal notification to the other, in keeping with the consensual nature of this agreement. We both understand that cancellation means a cessation of the control stated and implied within this agreement, not a termination of our relationship as friends and lovers, Upon cancellation, each of us agree to offer to the other his or her reasons and to assess our new needs and situation openly and lovingly.

 This agreement shall serve as the basis as for the extension of our relationship, committed to in the spirit of loving and consensual dominance and submission with the intention of furthering self-awareness and exploration promoting health and happiness and improving both of our lives.

 I offer my consent to submission to <Doms name here>  under the terms stated above and on this    day of  in the year of     ,
 I offer my acceptance of submission by <submissive name here>  under the terms stated above on this   day   of  in the year     ,


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   Master Contract

 A real life/online Master and kajira contract between   and her Master   Aka
 Master your slave wishes to offer you her submission with hope that you accept it.
Your slave in return, your slave offers her Master her complete control, knowing her Master may when needed and to his pleasures give his slave strict discipline along with continuous exploration of her slave body.
 Your slave also offers along with her complete submission, entrust with you Master her mind, body and soul within the preset limits. <if any>
1} No Kids or animals
2} No Blood
3} No Brown showers
4} No Swallowing
5} <Master's limits}
Your slave extends to you Master her complete submission knowing that her Master takes complete control and that he may limit his slave's action. Your slave knows that at times she must obey without question, being at her Master's mercy.
 You slave may only hope to enjoy the incredible, helpless and incomparable love that only can be felt from being owned fully and absolutely by her Master
Signed by <submissive> <Master> on the date of
slave
Master

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01.  On this, the ___ day of ________, 19___  I __________________ do hereby  accept ___________________ as my Owner and Master and understand  that by giving myself to him in this way that I am voluntarily giving up my freedom and accept with Love and Devotion, that from this day forward I shall be my Masters Property and will be kept as his; Slave, Servant, Pet, Submissive or any other role Master chooses for me.  I accept him as my Owner and Master and vow to always obey any order given to me by my Master without hesitation or question.  I am, however, allowed to make decisions in matters that involve my education or career after we have discussed it.  In the event that we have children in the future I  shall also have an equal say in there upbringing and education.

02.  I shall always refer to my Master as 'Master' when together in private or public around non-vanilla friends, otherwise he is to be referred to as 'Sir', other Dom's shall be refereed to as 'Sir' and Domes as 'Mistress'. When talking to others and referring to Master, I may refer to him as 'My Master' or 'My Owner' and always to refer to myself as HIS; 'Slave', 'Pet', 'Submissive', or 'Property'.

03.  I must wear my collar at all times, even in public.  A collar suitable for work and public will be provided for me by my Master when deemed necessary.  When in our home I am also to wear a short leash attached to my collar at all times, and at the discretion of my Master, I may also be kept at the end of a chain lead.  When online my name or nick must always to be followed by my collar:  {H}   Upon returning home I am to immediately strip, then place on my cuffs and leash, then check for any notes with additional orders Master may have left for me.

04.  I may be restrained, caged, or leashed at any time and in any place at the discretion of my Master.  I trust his judgement and shall not question him in these matters.  It is also my place to gratefully accept any and all types of; clothing, lingerie, restraints, chains, cuffs, cages, harnesses, blindfolds, gags, muzzles, vibrators, dildoes, plugs, bindings, or chastity devices that my Master chooses to use on me or place about me.

05.  If I am not ready for bed by the time Master gets into bed to sleep then I shall automatically spend the night wearing a leash sleeping on a pad or rug beside his bed.  He may also, at his discretion and at any time, choose for me to sleep in any other situation that he desires.

06.  I am not allowed to sit on the furniture when in the same room as my Master,  when he is in the room my place is to kneel just in front of, or to the side of his feet unless I am given permission to sit on the furniture or am invited by him to join him.  When visiting friends or having friends over who know of our situation, the same rules still apply.

07.  I may purchase my own clothes, but must return anything Master does not like or think should be kept.  I may only wear lingerie that master likes and then only with his permission, otherwise I am to remain totally nude except for my collar and any restraints I have been assigned to wear.

08.  I am not allowed to feed myself without permission if my Master is around, I must either kneel on the floor at his side or sit with my hands in my lap as Master hand feeds me.  If he chooses not to feed me while he is eating, then I will be fed via a pet dish on the floor after he has finished.

09.  I must keep Masters home clean and well-kept.  I will be given a schedule to follow with different chores on different days of the week - This schedule will be made to allow me the best use of my time so that I may finish faster and not have too much to do in any one day and will be periodically adjusted to allow for my work or school.  Falling behind without good reason (such as illness) is justification for punishment.  I am a procrastinator and Master makes my schedule to help avoid things "piling up" on me.

10.  My schedule, outside of work and school, must be approved of and/or will be determined by Master, this will include; chores, shopping, going out, phone time, online time, private time, bathing time, exercise time, feeding time, and any other times or schedules that Master deems appropriate.

11.  I must ask for permission to orgasm. I can masturbate if he is away, but must tell him about it when he returns. When Master is away I am only allowed 3 orgasms per week and must report on each time.

12.  I may occasionally allowed to be with other women from time to time in order to satisfy my bi-sexual desires, However I must ask permission first, and I must give a complete and detailed report afterwards.  I may also be required to bring my bi-sexual friends home when Master is around for his observation or participation.

13.  I am required to maintain Masters property (myself) in top condition at all times and must adhere to the following;

  a) I must shower or bathe at least twice daily.

  b) I must keep myself clean shaven at all times.

  c) Finger and toenails must be properly cared for an manicured.

  d) I am expected to spend a minimum of at least a half-hour each day working out or exercising in some form.


14.  I must keep a brief daily log of my days activities, and must also report to Master each night on the number of cigarettes I smoked during the day and shall present myself for punishment for each one, I must also make a conscious effort to reduce the number I smoke each day toward the goal of quitting.  The same rule applies towards alcoholic beverages.


15.I will answer any question ask of me by my Master immediately, thoroughly, and clearly.  I understand that holding back any information is considered lying.  I vow never to keep secrets from my Master.  Furthermore, I may NEVER respond by saying "oh, nothing" or use other such vague answers when Master asks what I am thinking or feeling, and if something is bothering me, I am to talk to him about it, I am NEVER to keep it held within no matter how much I may feel I want to.


16.  I must Never serve another Dominant in any way without having permission first, they are to be treated with  respect, but if they ask for my service or help in any way I am to politely inform them that I am collared and branded and that they must ask my Master.  I will serve any Masters, Mistress, or Friends that Master directs me to and will do so to the extent I am directed to (and not beyond), and will do so to the best of my abilities, always trusting Masters judgement.


17.  I am not to use the telephone without permission, then it is to be used sparingly.


18.  I shall accept and display the marks and ornaments that Master chooses to place  on me, including permanent ones. Shortly after the signing of this contract Master will place his permanent mark of ownership upon me in the form of a Brand which I myself have asked for, shall accept, and will wear proudly.  As he feels I am ready Master shall also place permanent rings upon me that will be pierced into the skin of my cit hood, each nipple, and later possibly each labia.  A tag identifying me as his property and engraved with my slave name shall eventually be placed on my cit hood ring.

19.  At sometime in the future deemed appropriate by Master when schedules of work and education allow, I shall accept a period of intense training aimed toward the goal of breaking me of my remaining inhibitions and undesirable habits, then retraining me to more fully accept my place as my Masters property and learn to serve him better.  This time period of this training will be determined by Master and may be lengthened or shortened depending upon my progress within a pre-set minimum and maximum time-frame.  During this time I will be continually restrained and controlled, I will be kept isolated from outside influences, I will be trained by Master as he sees fit and will be taught to respond to any and all commands instantly and unquestioningly - Master may use any means he sees fit to train me to his satisfaction.  I accept that I will not be able to stop or cancel this training until Master deems it is complete, or the maximum time limit has been reached no matter how much I may wish to and further acknowledge now that any pleas on my part to end the training or be released will be ignored
     until the maximum time limit is reached or Master determines that I am trained to his satisfaction.

20.  Finally, I have acknowledged the following;

  a) I can't make decisions.

  B) I don't WANT to make decisions.

  c) I want to give my Master full and total control over me and I trust my Master to make the right decisions for
      me/us, and, as best I can, will never second guess those decisions...   A Master is someone whom you trust totally, and part of that for me is giving up ALL control.



I, (masters signature) _____________________________________________________ do hereby accept (slaves signature) ___________________________________________ as my Property from this day forward, I promise to take care of her as my property and to teach and train her to learn to be a  better slave and pet, never to abuse her but to help her learn to expand her own limits as a submissive and slave.

On this, the _____ day of _____________, 19_____  we are voluntarily making this commitment to each other before (witnesses signature) ___________________________________ a mutual friend who is aware of the nature of our relationship and agreed to bear witness that we have each entered into this agreement of our own free will and without reservation.

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Good luck and if you need help with this please let me know..

Lady Aryana