Expert: Lady Aryana - 2/25/2009

Question
A FemDom Mistress friend of mine chastized me for greeting the submissive at her side "greetings boy," saying "he is not submissive to men, call him his name as an equal." As a Master, I found this disrespectful to me, and I said I simply won't greet her submissive in the future. Personally, my own slaves should be expected to be greeted as a slave or a submissive regardless of the gender of the Dominant, and see it as homophobic and problematic to allow the submissives to pick and choose basic protocol based on gender/race/etc. What do you think? Or is this some quirk of FemDom?

Answer
Seis,

Unless he is a switch he is submissive and he should respond and be greeted as such. If he is *in service* to a Mistress then he is in the part of a submissive so any and all contact with him should be in that status.

 Now if he was in a Dom role then the greetings would be as such.. Hello Sir, actually depends on how he prefers to be greeted as a Dom. I myself do not like to be address as Ma'am so I will ask the submissive to use Lady, Ms, or Mistress if I know them well enough and I feel they have enough respect for me to use Mistress.

I would say that the Femdom you had this problem with is just being a Bitch *excuse my french* She was simply trying to show who was in charge. If she doesn't want her boy to be address as submissive she should call him her equal when out in public and he should act as such.

I think you have made a good point, from now on do not greet her boy, and if he does not show you the respect you feel you should have do not respond to anything he says. If she approaches you and ask you why you are ignoring him be honest with her.. He is in a submissive role, and until he shows you the same respect he would any other Dominate then you will not waste your time with him.

I think once it happens enough she will make him respect all Doms Male or female the same.. If she doesn't she is simply allowing him to top from the bottom and she will find she will lose alot of respect from the community in the long run..

Good luck

Lady Aryan