Expert: arani_CsA - 2/12/2009

Question
i am only just realising that i am a sub but dont know much about it all.i need to defne the difference between a sub and a slave, so that i understand where this is all going. any help would be gladly recieved

Answer
Hello...

Thank you for coming to me with your question.  I hope I can help you find the answers that you are looking for.

You are right in realizing that submissives and slaves are two entirely different kinds of people.  But, if you ask ten people to define what those differences are, you will probably get at least six different answers.  So, what I am going to do is tell you my own beliefs, and accept that others may feel differently.

The difference lies not in WHAT a sub or a slave does, but WHY they do it.  It's in the mind-set.  A submissive serves because it's enjoyable for her.  Yes, she may be focused on meeting the needs and wants of her Dominant, but if she doesn't enjoy what she's doing she eventually is going to lose interest and go off in search of something else.  There are some who say that the sub is the one who has the true control in a D/s relationship, because she will specify her limits before the relationship ever starts, and can walk out any time she isn't feeling good about it.  And there's nothing wrong with that.

A slave, however, is someone who is born with a strong desire to serve.  It's almost like the calling that a religious devotee experiences.  She doesn't serve because she enjoys serving or because she gets sexually excited when she does so, she serves because she can't do anything else.  It's like breathing.  What she will hopefully do is find a Master who can help her channel those needs, and nurture her innate talents, and help her grow as a person as well as a servant.  Some may feel the need to serve just one, but others (like myself) may feel that they have been created to be of service to all.  My slavery is a very spiritual thing; it's not a religion by any means, but it is something that comes from deep within my soul.

Now, this is just the icing on the cake, and is a far deeper subject than I can address in just one letter.  Here are some good places to continue your research, and help you determine what is for you:
http://www.castlerealm.com
http://www.leathernroses.com
http://www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html
http://www.rlslavery.com

Good luck to you in your search.  If you have any further questions, feel free to bring them to me.

arani_CsA,
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