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Expert: - 3/15/2009


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hi awhitecloud i do hope you could give me some advice.little bit of background 1st, i have been with my master for nearly 2 years he is someone i have known since i was 15 (am now 37)we seem to have built a strong relatioship with the bdsm side of things then the other day we was talking and he said that master will be leaving he felt the love between us had grown even more and he couldnt. (if i put it in his words) hurt the butterfly any more.the thing is i have really put 100 percent into this and i enjoy the lifestyle so im now scared that it might ruin what we have. he did say to me that if i wished to i could still continue but with someone else but i said that i couldnt do that. at the moment i feel a bit confused on what has happend. wont go on any more but if you wish to know more about the relationship before answering or heping then please let me know
look forward to hearing you advice
thank you vik

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okay can you tell me some more information please?

So is or was the relationship D/s or more M/s or S and M?  is this a 24/7 or just when you can?  Do you attend things outside your home or is this just done inside the home?

Do you have like minded friends?  I this topic still open for more communication on it with your Master?

If he allows you to have the D/s with another person will you still be with him? Or does it mean you are done with each other.

Thank you,

awhitecloud  

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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