Expert: CougarDomme - 3/10/2009

Question
QUESTION: How can i get my partner to be more dominant? I am in a relationship and am the submissive of the relationship. My partner isn't convinced she knows how to be a dominant. And can be very nervous at times. How would i be able to help her out with that? (and for her to be able to punish me)

ANSWER: You need to communicate with her that you'd like her to be more strict and to ramp up the intensity of the punishment sessions.  She will get more comfortable with her role as time goes by.

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QUESTION: Yes i have. But she is nervous about hurting me. And doesn't think she knows how to. I've told her all that. But do you have any tips. or things i could say to help her?

Answer
Tell her that you are not going to let her INJURE you--you're not insane. She doesn't seem to be dominant by nature and it's not something you can really learn to be. You might have to settle for what you have if you don't want to find a new partner.  The parable about leopards and not changing spots is very true.