Expert: CougarDomme - 5/1/2009

Question
QUESTION: Hi CougarDomme,

I am new to this, but i am a Master/Dom looking for ways to
punish my slave/sub. i say it like this because we still have  
yet to figure out what role she is willing to take on. and
until then i wont collar her. but i have read about the non
masochistic ways to punish but i haven't really read any on
light masochistic punishment. can you shed some light on what
i can do?

ANSWER: You need to learn a LOT more about the whole BDSM scene before you even THINK about punishing your submissive. If you don't know enough about the lifestyle to even know the role of your submissive then why in God's name would you punish her?  For WHAT?  A dom/me does NOT punish a submissive for NO REASON because it is far too devastating to a submissive to be punished AT ALL as disappointing the dom/me is the worst thing that a sub could have happen to him or her.  You have no business even thinking about collaring or punishing because you don't have a CLUE what the lifestyle is all about.  It's not what you've read/seen in your little porn forays, it's entirely different and built on trust and respect and you have to earn it from your sub to be given the gift of submission.  You don't belong in the scene/lifestyle because you have no clue what it's about and you'd be laughed out of the scene. You need to LEARN what it's about before you damage some poor submissive who you might fool for a while and will be the one to suffer the consequence of your incredible arrogant ignorance.

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QUESTION: Whoooaaaaa man im not that stupid or ignorant im not arrogant either. I am a very smart individual who asked for alittle incite. btw i read and learn before i do anything! you shouldnt rush to judge people, sure some people may be like that but not me. i know how it works. i woulndt punish her unless she did somthing teribly wrong trust me it would hurt me also. me and my feonce have been together for almost 2 years we talk and understaind eachother. now if your done ranting you can either awnser my questions or ill go somwhere else, thankyou for you time

Answer
I can't help but laugh at an email from someone who claims not to be stupid or ignorant and claims to be a very smart individual but spells i-n-s-i-g-h-t "incite", and then spells f-i-a-n-c-e "feonce" which are the funniest of the ELEVEN misspelled words contained in your reply--words that are usually mastered by the average 4th grader.  Shower curtain mildew is smarter than you are--ever hear of something called "Spell Check"?  It's tailor-made for ignorant assholes like you to keep from being so OBVIOUSLY from a trailer park--learn to use it and then only your extremely poor grammar and sentence structure will give you away for the uneducated buffoon that you are.  When you graduate from 8th grade (dare to dream) and learn to spell then you can play with the computer again. By the way, your village called, they are missing their idiot so I told them I'd send you home. It's hard to believe that the sperm cell responsible for the zygote that became you was able beat out millions of other cells; so you might want to get that vasectomy now so that you don't dumb down the human race by breeding.