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Expert: - 4/30/2009


Question
I have been with my boyfriend very seriously for 2.5 years now. He is very conservative and naive about any kind a sexual lifestyle. I have had experience as a Sub. How do I (gently) let him know that I am interested in a D/S relationship? From some of the comments and requests he has made, I know he would make a very good Dom. Thanks for your help.

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First off let me say that I am sorry for my delay in getting back with you.

Here is a good site to go to with a lot of information and even has a section to answer you questing.     
      http://www.wizdomme.com/infopack/faq.shtml#top

Well for me I would just come out and spill myself all over, I do not do well with keeping things inside that effect my life and how and what I feel.

Communication is the key be open and honest and keep talking, learn together. Find a local munch group and attend together, explore this together and see what happens.  It might be for you both and then it might night not be.  But people live this already more then they think just now it will have a name and give you all types of things to talk about and explore together.


I hope this helps if I can do anything else please let me know.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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