Expert: arani_CsA - 4/24/2009

Question
i am new to all of this and i really need some advice on some learning sites on how to be better submissive for my master and i was wandering if anyone can send me in the right direction.....

Answer
Hello...

Thank you for coming to me with your question.  I hope I can help you find the answers you are looking for.

Firstly, welcome to the wonderful world of D/s.  Being a submissive can be incredibly fulfilling and life-enriching, but it can also be frightening to someone who is new to the lifestyle.  You are undoubtedly feeling a rush of strange new emotions, and have this desire to be exactly what your Master wants you to be, and yet be unsure of how to go about doing it.

Well, let me tell you that I have been where you are.  There are some good places you can go for information, and I'll give you some of these.  But you also need to cultivate friendships with other submissives, and with lifestylers in general, to discuss what you learn and observe - and to learn how they dealt with those same issues.  There are a number of discussion forums around the web, many of them here on Yahoo, where you can interact with others, but you do need to realize that there is a lot of misinformation on the web.  Many people think that the lifestyle is just a game, and don't take it at all seriously.  

But the best way to find friends within the lifestyle is to become involved with a BDSM group that meets in your area.  (You can find a listing of such groups, by state, at http://www.drkdesyres.com)  Most of these groups will get together informally to go out to eat, or visit in each other's homes, or other activities.  You can see how they interact with each other, talk to and make friends with other submissives and Dominants, and learn.  And, you may find yourself invited to participate in some play activities, if you are interested in that sort of thing.

Now, here are some of those websites that I promised you.  Read them, and spend time thinking about how the information presented there affects you, and influences your desires and your growth as a submissive.  Spend time in meditation as to what it is that drives you to this lifestyle, and what you want out of it.

http://www.castlerealm.com
http://www.leathernroses.com
http://www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html

Good luck to you, and if you have any further questions, please don't hesitate to contact me again.

arani_CsA,
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