Expert: Master Shadow - 5/5/2009

Question
Hello, I'm fairly new to the area of BDSM but I have play with toys and things
in the pass. I recently found myself drawn to have a Master and the
relationship I was in was heading there naturally. I am now learning to prove
if I can be his slave. I am very happy to be learning all I can it excites me very
much. But I'm having alot of trouble when it comes to begging...simple put I
dont know how to do it. I been told that I need to work on it and I try very
hard but I am stuck...I know that I must plead and wish to be taken..but I
cannot seem to find that words.
Is there anyway to train myself to beg I dont want to have Sir to direct me in
every way, I can tell that displeases him. But he understand I am new and
wants to help. So here I am...

Answer
Begging is more an art form than anything else, and like art, must, in order to be acceptable, come from the heart. It cannot be "taught" in the normal sense, but must rather come from desiring something so much that you'd literally do almost anything to get, or achieve your goal.

Learning, as a sub or slave, to beg takes time, and experience, like your Dominant withholding something you really like from you, such as certain foods, toys, time on the Internet, scening, or even acknowledgement. It becomes important in your mind to have these things, even though they are gifts from your Master/Mistress. If you desire them enough, you will learn which ways of begging work for you, and more importantly, your Dominant.

A certain amount of begging style is dependent on your Dominant, what They find appealing, or acceptable to Them. This is lesson one, watching Him/Her closely as you beg, learning by His/Her body language, and facial expressions which pleases Them most. Experiment with it, but remember, you MUST have a sincere DESIRE to have the thing/things you are begging for, or it will sound phony.

Best of luck to the B/both of Y/you in Y/your Journey into the Lifestyle.



                                          SINcerely in Leather,
                                          Master Shadow.