Expert: arani_CsA - 5/6/2009

Question
My wife and I are separated due to her job for the next two months.  We want to continue our journey into our Master/slave relationship while apart.  We have daily web contact and had two internet sessions with mixed results.  Any advice as to methods, things to do, how to make the session work better and how to build tension for her return would be greatly appreciated.  Thank you

Answer
Hello...

Thank you for coming to me with your question.  I hope I can help you find the answers you are looking for.

Long-distance M/s relationships are quite possible, and can also be enjoyable and fulfilling for those involved.  My own Master and I met through an on-line discussion forum, and successfully maintained a long-distance relationship for nearly three years before we finally were able to be together.  It does require work and commitment from all involved, however.

Web-cams and instant messaging programs can be useful for keeping in contact with each other, and even for simulating sexual activities or for talking the slave through various forms of self-stimulation.  They can also be used for making sure that the slave carries out various tasks that have been given to her, and for discussing her feelings and emotions about her status and about the various tasks she is given.  

One thing that my Master and i found helpful was that I had a regular routine that I was to carry out during the day, and i was also required to make frequent reports to him.  For instance, i was to e-mail him when I woke up, when I left for work, when I returned from work, and when I went to bed.  I also was given various tasks to perform during the day, and reported to him my performance of these.  I was to keep my pubic regions shaved at all times, to remind me of my slavery, and was only to address him using a particular style.  (This is a fairly common approach that many Masters use with their slaves -- either requiring the slave to speak in the third person, or if using e-mail or chat to capitalize all pronouns referring to the Master while forbidding her to use any capitals when referring to herself.  Even in her name.)

A journal is also a good way of keeping in contact.  Your wife can keep a daily blog or other form of on-line journal, where she relates what she has done during the day and also how she feels and what she has learned.  You can then go on line and read her journal, and discuss it with her later.

This time apart could be a good time for her to learn a new skill, or undertake some sort of personal transformation that would make her more pleasing to you.  For instance, she could take a cooking class or lose a prescribed amount of weight.  She could spend time doing research on some aspect of her slavery, and compile a report to be presented to you on your return.

Some Masters find it useful to deny their slaves sexual release for a period of time, usually finding that the slaves are all the more needy and willing to do whatever it takes to be allowed to orgasm.  There is a system that I have seen used, more often with male slaves but also with females, where a slave will have a box with a set number of colored marbles in it (often one marble for each day of the month).  One marble will be a different color than the rest.  Every day, a marble is taken out of the box.  If the differently colored marble is removed, then the slave is allowed an orgasm.  If not, then the slave is denied orgasm for yet another day, building up sexual tension and desire all the while.  When the colored marble is removed, all are put back in the original box and the process starts all over again.  In this way, the slave never knows how long she will have to wait between orgasms.  And the process of selecting a marble can be quite entertaining.

These are just some suggestions that can be used to spice up your relationship while you are apart, and to actually help it grow.  You can probably use the ideas I've given you to come up with other ideas on your own.  Good luck to both of you, and if you have any further questions, please bring them to me.

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