Expert: Robert Rubel - 5/31/2009

Question
I am currently a man that is very submissive and i really want to try and be someones slave and am having trouble getting this on the right track. I want a woman to be my mistress under any circumstance.
Could you please give me some guidance into getting into this sort of thing? Thank you
~Trey

Answer
Hi Trey...

First I'm a switch.  I've been owned by Karen Martin since July, 2001 and 18 months into our relationship she gave me my own slave.  The three of have been together ever since.

I mention my Owner by name because she's the author of "How to Capture a Mistress."  You can find in on Amazon.  I believe that you will find it specifically addresses your concerns: you are having trouble figuring out how to go about presenting yourself to a dominant woman.  You are exactly the person for whom she wrote the book.

The one caution that I would offer is that there is a VAST difference between a caring woman who may serve as your Dominant (and life-guide) and a bitch.  A FemDomme is not domineering; she is someone to whom you surrender because in your estimation, she is capable of aiding you positively in your own goals in life.  

Depending upon the size of the city in which you live, you may be able to find a FemDomme group called "Club Femme."  I'm familiar with them in NYC, Chicago, Dallas, Houston, and Austin (which is where I was from until about six months ago).

I really applaud your courage in writing with this question.  In a general sense, submissive men tend to hide.

You also may want to check out www.fetlife.com  It's the "kinksters" version of Facebook and such.  There, you will find many women who would be receptive to hearing from a submissive man.

If I can be of further help, just write back.

Best possible wishes,

Bob