Expert: ziggy ziegler - 5/9/2009

Question
I am new to this lifestyle.  I have recently found out that my Dominant has another slave, but he never told me. Is this normal in this lifestyle?  He told me that as His slave i cannot feel jealousy and have to accept her.  I have not been able to find anything in all the research i've done that indicates a Dominant having more than one slave at a time.  Can you shed some light on this issue?
Thank you,
AM

Answer
Dear AM
I hope this email finds you well and in good spirits.
Not really know you or your owner and the big picture I will give you a general idea of what I think of your question.
As for your question; one of the most important tenants of this lifestyle is open and honest communication. This extends itself to our dominant partners as well. Certainly, it is well within his right to with hold that information from you but, if the goal is to have you develop a trusting relationship with him so that he can fully enact his dominance then why not just be open and honest?
As for jealousy; that is a hard one, jealousy comes from distrust and insecurity. If he has already given you cause for concern then its possible that you will develop those feelings.  Yes, a lot of owners have more than one slave but a great deal of open and honest communication and time management is required to balance out any emotional stumbling blocks with the masters desire to own more than one slave. Another words it is really not just a matter of “I am master this is what I want and you just have to deal with it.” (not saying that is his actual response but more a generalization of that idea). Again its well within his right to do as he pleases but longer to term I am not sure as that way of thinking works as effectively as helping you understand your role with regards to the other slave.
It might be helpful to look at “polyamorous relationships” or “Master slave relationships” One site I like as a general site to read about and correspond with others in the lifestyle is www.fetlife.com
Thank you for the question… very best wishes to you and your sir

Warmest regards and best wishes
slave ziggy