Expert: CougarDomme - 5/11/2009

Question
I was involved in my first bdsm relationship and have found that it must end.  For various reasons, one being my Domme didn't have the level of experience she stated she had and didn't explain things to me.  She promised a contract and one never came...

she wants me to promise not to be involved with anyone else in the lifestyle.  i don't understand how to end this relationship correctly when it wasn't ever managed correctly by her!

thanks for your time~

Answer
You give her back her collar if you have one and you move out if you live with her, the same as any other breakup.  The reason she wants you to promise not to hook up with anyone else is because she doesn't want anyone to know that she is an inept, dishonest "Domme" as reputation is everything in the lifestyle.  It's your life and she has no more say over you than any other previous signifigant other. Move on.  The right one is out there and you'll find her.  In the interim, feel free to socialize with anyone you wish and be honest if you are asked why your previous relationship ended. Try to take the high road, but if you are honest that's all that's expected and you have no obligation to protect the reputation of someone who lied to you.  Good Luck!