Expert: Master Shadow - 6/29/2009

Question
My boyfriend seems to think I would very much enjoy kicking him in the nuts.  He thinks I really want to, even though I've never mentioned it or hinted at it.  Actually, I believe HE is the one that really wants it but expresses concern that he might really get hurt.  At first, I was very hesitant to entertaining the idea, but now, I really want to do it.  I told him kneeing might be the place to start.  Any suggestions or ideas about this?  My fear is that I might get so in to it that he could really get hurt in a vulnerable state.  He doesn't make things any better by saying "do whatever you want to them (his balls).  You have my permission."  Need some advice here.

Answer
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I hope this helps!



Here's a technique for hitting / deeply slapping the balls that I think is better ball torture than dangling weights from balls -- both safer and more effective at causing fun pain. This technique is similar to kicking the balls, but safer because the hit is easier to control and to repeat at the same intensity.

Ball busting is not a light, stingy slap to the scrotum. The nerves in the ball sack are tied into the genital nerves, Certainly genital nerves can be fun to play with, but such play is not ball busting. Ball busting reaches the nerves deep in the balls themselves, which are tied to the nerves in the intestines.

Buy a massage/ball banger/bonger – four names for a flexible metal strip with a rubber ball on one end and a handle on the other. Or a mallet with a soft end designed to play a gong or musical instrument. Or attach a tennis ball to a wooden spoon. Or just use the wooden spoon. Or use your fist. Or slap.

If you want to avoid the chance of abrasions or cuts to his ball sack, have your bottom wear a jock strap. That can also keep his cock out of the way. However, check underneath occasionally for bruising (you may or may not consider light bruising a reason to stop) or swelling (which is always a reason to stop immediately). Abrasions and cuts are less likely when using padded or rubber toys than when using your hands or a solid toy.

Tap your bottom's balls lightly but rapidly, like more than once per second. After 10 or 20 taps, pause a few seconds, then give his balls a firm hit. Then repeat, using a random number of taps, a random pause length, and a harder firm hit. And repeat again and again. That's basically it.

Probably soon, your bottom will react to the firm hit with an involuntary jerk due to his nerve connections. Your bottom's lower brain can't tell the difference between a deep pain in his balls and a knife in his guts, thus the involuntary jerk to get away. Perhaps you will get groans and writhing from the taps, or his fear when you pause the taps.

To keep the medical risk low, don't use any harder of a firm hit than it takes to get a nice involuntary jerk. Can you safely hit harder than the softest hit that gets a good jerk? Do you really want to? If so, do your own research and then decide. For example, see public.diversity.org.uk/deviant/bfballtr.htm#Health, the Health and safety discussion in the Ballbusting group and emedicine.medscape.com/article/441362-overview.

If you want more SM intensity (and ball busting certainly can be wildly intense), then make your scene longer. Or, use fewer taps between the firm hits. Or give your bound bottom several firm hits in a row with little or no time to recover between them. Or pre-negotiate that when he has had enough you get to keep going for another 5 minutes. Or gradually up the strength of the “light” taps until they are not far from the strength of the firm hits. Or each time he involuntary jerks away punish him for not following your command to hold his vulnerable position, perhaps by putting another clothespin on his cock or chest or, if you have access to his ass, paddling it.

For less SM intensity, just stick with light taps. Be patient and they will be quite effective without any harder hits.

Most of the time you want your bottom in bondage loose enough that he has room for a nice jerk, but restrictive enough that resistance is futile. The first time you do this, have him lie down so that you can better see what you are doing and see how your bottom is reacting. Standing is good. Bent over can work, particularly with something like a fuck bench. Sitting works if his legs are bound so as to keep his knees separated.

Having your bottom's balls in something firm like a humbler can work well for light, stingy play. However, it forces you to keep any deep hits relatively gentle -- keep the hard hits the bare minimum strength that causes a good reaction.

For more Dom/sub energy leave your sub unbound and after each involuntary jerk enjoy his struggle to return to the vulnerable position you commanded him to hold. It goes without saying that the Dom/sub energy can be upped by commanding your sub to beg for each hit, to count each one, to thank you for each one, to beg you to stop, etc.

Unless you limit ball busting to a quick demo, be prepared for your bottom, when first released, to be in an altered state of consciousness from his endorphin rush and his lower brain stimulation, in need of emotional support, or both. During play, these effects may make it hard for him to comply with commands like counting.

Shotgun Video makes ball torture videos. They have free previews at shotgunvideo.com The previews of “Beginners Luck” and “Beginners Luck Vol 2” show more or less what is described here. “Torture by the Numbers” shows sustained rapid taps. “Out of Bounds” shows large involuntary jerks and the sub's struggle to return to the vulnerable position.



                                              SINcerely in Leather,
                                              Master Shadow.