Expert: Master Shadow - 6/21/2009

Question
I've seeing this guy and so far we have a good relationship. He's older than me and has done the sub\dom life before...he has asked me to do some reseach and see if I want to be involved in this with him...I do enjoy agressive sex and letting him pretty much do what he wants. I would just like some more information on what the lifestyle part of the sub\dom relationship is.
Thank you,
Raea

Answer
It is many things to many people, and to try here to explain it all would take too much time, and over run the buffers LOL!

Mainstream is BD/SM, Bondage/Discipline, and Sadism/Masochism, but there are many different mixtures involved. For example, a sado masochist relationship may contain certain aspects of the Bondage, Discipline, or both within the relationship.

Many are into the Dominant/submissive aspect of the Lifestyle, and there is no real pain involved. Others mix the pain with the Dominant submissive relationship. When you also add that many of these relationships can be of same sex partners, and that in all cases, each individual selects that which they enjoy most into their relationship, you can see that there are too many different types to really go into here.

Try Gloria-Brame.com, a learning site that is a warehouse of information for not only the beginner, but also the seasoned Master/Mistress/sub/slave.

Basically, it's about whatever turns you on, without feelings of guilt, or shame in this part of you. It's not only about acceptance of others, but self acceptance as well. Explore that which is you, so long as it is safe, sane and consensual between the two of you.

I hope this helps. Be well, play safe, and have fun. Remember, though, to be safe in all you do, even if there's a little bit of fear involved :D


                                           SINcerely in Leather,
                                           Master Shadow.