About Slavywavy Expertise I could answer:
D/s and M/s issues
Sensual Play
Bondage
Breast Torture
Spanking
Flogging
The psychology of submission
Safety issues
RACK
Relationship issues
How to tell someone you are into BDSM
Red flags when you meet a Dominant online
Internet safety
First meeting
Safe calls
Safe words
Limits
Fisting
Humiliation play
Infantilism
Age play
Puppy play
Collars
Aftercare
The tenets of a M/s relationship
I can't comment on:
Whips and other edgy impact toys
Needle play
Cutting
Branding (except for its symbolic value)
Scat
Asphyxiation
Edge play
Experience I have been a 24/7 slave now for more than 5 years. I live with my husband and Master. I have also been quite active in some of the communities where I lived and have played or scened quite a lot. I have helped new submissives to find their feet when entering the lifestyle countless times.
Education/Credentials Gave lectures on subspace and on being a slave. Helped in training programs by being the model and by giving my time to help organise it.
Question slavywavy- Hi i am coming back into the lifestyle after being with a very abusive Dom put me off of it and who i am as a submissive(basically i was ashamed of who i am)
5 months ago i met my Sir and it has been great He has been very patient with me and it feels so natural for both of us. my only problem is i find myself getting really emotional(crying/worried i have upset him ect) after we play especially when its pushing me to grow within the limits we've discussed... or i have been unable to do a task properly and Sir says its ok that He isn't disappointed or upset that He knows i am still learning.. but i still feel bad even when i don't do something bad enough to get a consequence...is that strange?
I am not unhappy in the relationship and find myself falling more and more for Sir each day.. it bothers me that i get so emotional and i don't know how to discuss it with Him.. any suggestions? and is the emotionalness normal? will it go away?
thanks
Angel
Answer Hello darling angel
Are emotions normal directly after a scene? Oh yes hun, they are very normal and it is completely normal to cry or laugh or have a really big emotional reaction. It is also completely normal to feel as if this can't be good and to feel as if you are letting Him down. I know, I still cry and I feel that way sometimes to this day (and I have been a slave for a very long time!)
One very good dominant once told me that submissives are really very good at punishing themselves and if One wanted to be lazy One never needed to punish them at all. All One needed to do was to let them bash themselves over the head continually until One felt that it was enough. My Master has forbidden me to do so as He says it is His job to punish me and I have no right to take over His job.
Your Sir seems to to understand that you have had a difficult time and you owe it to Him and to yourself to open up and share those feelings of not being good enough and to dig deep to find out where the roots of this are to be found, so you can heal.It will be hard and it will take many tears and incredible courage, but this is what this lifestyle is all about - complete openness and honesty. That is what forms the strong bond between dominant and submissive more than anything else. You need to talk and be brave and you can be!
You trust Him in a scen with your body, don't you? It is time to see it as your duty to trust Him with your mind and your emotions. It is part of His job to guide you to serve Him with your emotions and your mind as well and not talking to him is disobedient. Think of it like that and it becomes easier to share.
