Expert: arani_CsA - 6/6/2009

Question
     hi..just wondering if you know of any free sites for bdsm; we are a straight couple seeking a female slave to join us here at home. thank you!!

Answer
Hello...

Thank you for coming to me with your question.  I hope I can help you find the answers you are looking for.

First of all, I'm not sure what you want from these "free sites" you are seeking.  Are you after information, or a place for connecting with potential partners?

For information about the BDSM lifestyle, I can recommend several good sites:
http://www.castlerealm.com
http://www.leathernroses.com
http://www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html

And, specifically dealing with slavery:
http://www.rlslavery.com
http://www.bestslavetraining.com/
http://www.bornslaves.com/index.html
http://www.enslavement.org.uk/

If you're looking for a place to hook up with a potential slave, there are sites like www.collarme.com where people post and respond to personal ads, and make arrangements to meet.  There are also quite a few discussion groups on Yahoo, and other similar sites, that will allow potential partners to meet and get acquainted.

However, the best way to meet a "real life" partner is in real life.  I suggest that you find a BDSM group that meets in your local area.  (You can find a listing of such groups, by state, at http://www.drkdesyres.com)  Here you can actually see the person you are communicating with, watch how she interacts with others, and get recommendations from others she has known and served.  You can afford her the same privilege of getting to know you face to face.  After all, you are going to be asking her to place her very life in your hands; you need to be sure she can trust you enough to do that.  Typically, these groups will have an on-line discussion forum for introducing yourself and setting up meetings, but will also have get-togethers ranging from going out to eat as a group in a neutral setting to meeting at someone's home for some serious lifestyle play and discussion.

I will say that once you take a slave, you can no longer be "straight."  You will have some very important responsibilities toward this slave, as well as being able to benefit from her service.  This is a commitment just as serious as marriage, with emotional ties that are just as deep.  It's not something that people do for a few minutes or a few weeks.

I encourage you to spend some time learning about the lifestyle, and contemplating how best you can incorporate it into your existing relationship.  You should also discuss, between yourselves, how bringing a third person into your relationship (slave or no) will change that relationship.  Because it most certainly will.  Not every relationship can survive bringing in a third person.  Not everyone is cut out to share in that way.

Good luck to you.  If you have any further questions, feel free to contact me again.

arani_CsA,
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