Expert: Slavywavy - 6/15/2009

Question
I a sub, and I was just wondering how do i go about learning about the BDSM lifestyle. I am completely new to these experiences, so any information or  any organizations to join would be greatly helpful thanks tonya

Answer
Dear Tonya

Welcome and happy journey to you. You can join online networking sites like alt.com, bondage.com, fetlife.com. You should read as much as you can. Google BDSM and you will find countless articles on the subject. You can go to Associated Content and search for: "Bea Amor" and you will find a lot of articles on this subject.

On the sites I have listed for you there are countless articles you can read and these will help you a lot.

There are several books on BDSM you can buy and you can find all of these on Amazon.com - search with the tag BDSM, submission, bondage etc and you will find a lot of books to read.

Then when you join the networking sites, contact local groups and go to local munches where you can get to know people in the lifestyle in a very non-threatening environment. It is safe and you will be protected since the way we see responsible participation in BDSM is to be safe, sane and to always ensure that all activities are consensual.

When you join a local group, make friends and choose a mentor that can guide you when you get all excited and want to do everything at once, because believe me you will want to. All of us go through this (or most of us is my guess) and you will need some protection from yourself. Make sure you know basic safety for online and realtime participation.

So safety, basic information on what to look for and what to avoid are amongst the first things to learn about. Also read sites written by submissives who are interested in the world of Gor - google "gor" and you will find lists of them. They will help you to understand the depth and beauty of true submission, even if the world of Gor is all fantasy in many minds.

I wish you a beautiful journey and urge you to ask as amny questions as you need to to feel safe and cared for.

Hugs

Slavy