About Master Shadow Expertise Can answer your BD/SM Lifestyle questions regarding flogging, caning, paddles, whips, scening, fear play, wax play, sensual knife play, humiliation, fisting, anal, violet wands, clamps, cbt, ice play, books, breathplay including blood chokes, cuffs, collars, furniture, collaring ceremonies, links, gags, toys and other items used in the lifestyle, Will not answer questions regarding medical advice in regards to the Lifestyle. I am a sadist, married to a Domme, who is also a sadist, am the owner of two, in a poly relationship, and enjoy the 24/7 lifestyle.
Experience 31 Years experience in the BD/SM Lifestyle.
Organizations Terre Haute S.I.N. Social Interaction Network (CoFounder).
Publications Alt Magazine, on "Honor and Respect".
Education/Credentials , Member of The Dungeon Monitors Association, as well as The Violet Wand Guild, and life experience.
Question i 'm a novice that just starting to explore my bd d/s lifestyle responding to a femalesub personal ad for the fisrt time ?
Answer I would attend a slosh or munch in your area, and get to know what the Lifestyle is all about before you go answering ads, so you have some idea of what you're getting into, or in the case of answering the "Wrong" ad, staying OUT of (Trouble!)
I would check out a few sites, like Gloria-Brame.com first, and read. It's a nice site that give in depth answers in an easy to read format. Realize, there are many predators out there who will leave you with nothing in the end. Better to find out about it, and them first, before committing to anything, and play it safe.
Remember, there's STILL STD's to worry about as well, so check before doing anything. Once you are better informed, I'd join a group that actually meets somewhere in your area, and let them sort of guide you some, and give you some support.
There are many groups out there, and you would be among like minded people, so the stress would be lessened as well. Often, you can meet someone there to explore with. These are not sex clubs, and everything is consensual between the partners involved.
I wish you well in the Lifestyle, and in your Journey of Self Exploration.
